How To Control Your Temper
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How To Control Your Temper
Life is filled with situations that make you want to lose your temper. But learning to control yourself when you're about to have a tantrum is an important part of anger management. In this film leading anger management expert, Mike Fisher, explains his method for avoiding angry outbursts.
Step 1: F is for Focus
If you feel you're about to lose your temper, try to focus and remain grounded. Use deep breathing or counting to get your brain thinking rationally. Tell yourself that you are not going to explode.
Step 2: L is for Listen
When you are in a situation that makes you angry, or you are in disagreement with someone, try to really listen to them and empathise with them. Try to understand the conflict from their point of view.
Step 3: O is for Objectivity
If you're in disagreement with someone, try not to take it personally. Try to stay objective about the situation, and this will help you to not become angry.
Step 4: W is for Wait
People with anger management problems tend to react to situations immediately, without taking time to consider their reaction. If you feel like you're about to explode or lose your temper, try to take a moment to think and reflect before you react. Use this time to think about what the consequences of an angry outburst would be.
British Association of Anger Management - www.angermanage.co.uk