How To Cope As Bereaved Parents

This is one of the most devastating situations any parents are likely to find themselves in, the loss of a child, the loss of an extension of you, someone that you actually gave birth to as a mother or father. Learning to cope with this can be a very slow, painful, process. But it is important that we allow these emotions to actually flow, and we work through them individually and together.

It is important for both of you to be able to recognize that it was out of your control, it was not your fault. So that we don't start blaming each other for what has happened. It is important that we work individually, possibly with a therapist to help us through, and also together, possibly in a group environment to help each other through.

It's also important that we involve the extended family or friends to help us go through the process of grieving for a child. Try and remember that you and your partner are both suffering together in different ways. Your relationship with the child was very individual, but you are both grieving for the same person.

It is quite likely that one or both of you will go through stages of depression. Try and talk to each other and be open. And speak to your GP, he may recommend you then go on and have therapy.

Please make sure that you seek professional advice, even if it's just a short trip to your GP. Stick together as a couple and try not to cut people out as everybody is grieving in a different way. But it will be very beneficial to you as an individual to work through this together. .