How To Cope With A Flirtatious Co-Worker
How To Cope With A Flirtatious Co-Worker: Not everyone enjoys a co-worker flirting with them in the office so Irma Kurtz has lent us her valued advice on how to deal with this tricky situation.
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Step 1:
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Think
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You may be flattered by the attention but do you want to pursue this? Most likely not. Relationships in the work place are never a good idea. Even though the boost to your ego might be welcome, be clear in your mind that you want this to stop. Otherwise you may end up giving mixed signals.
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Step 2:
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Act fast
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As soon as the flirting starts, stamp it out. If you let it slide the flirter will presume you enjoy the dalliance, and any, and we mean any, interaction with you will be seen as encouragement. The straight forward task of passing a stapler will turn into an innuendo fuelled exchange.
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Step 3:
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Humour diffusion
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Make a gentle joke of his advances, and let others in on the gag. This shares the situation, making it obvious that you aren't going to put up with any provocative behaviour. The slight embarrassment he publicly receives should be enough to stop him trying it on again. Don't be cruel or make unkind remarks, as this will embitter him and make you appear bitchy.
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Step 4:
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Be honest
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If the flirting continues, speak with your offender face to face. Be clear that you don't enjoy the attention and you want it to stop. Keep your tone firm but stay friendly.
WARNING
Never send an email instead of talking. Not only does it lack the tone you need, but can also be easily overseen.
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Step 5:
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Complain
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If after the chat the flirting continues, or even worse, escalates, have a word with your immediate supervisor who will deal with your complaint. Explain what has been happening and how it makes you feel uncomfortable. It is your employee's duty to provide a safe working environment, they must follow the correct procedures to ensure a healthy productive atmosphere is restored.
For more advice about resolving work issues contact Acas at www.acas.org.uk. Also, have a look at VideoJug's 'How to make a complaint in the work place'.
The flirting will stop, allowing you both to get on with your work, professionally.
