How To Deal With Homophobic Abuse
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How To Deal With Homophobic Abuse
If you're being abused, verbally or physically, for being gay, it can be difficult to know where to go for help. Homophobic prejudice and abuse can occur in many situations, and it's important to deal with it and report it. Our VideoJug film will give you advice on how to handle this difficult issue of homophobic abuse..
Step 1: It's not your fault
Abuse can come in many different forms. It can be physical or verbal bullying, and can happen at home, work or in the community; even within a family. Just remember that if you're being abused it's not your fault and you have not 'brought it on yourself'. Despite what your abuser might say, there's nothing wrong with being gay. It's the abuser who has the problem, and is taking it out on you. Don't let their problem affect your self-esteem.
Step 2: Confronting your abuser
If you're the victim of homophobic abuse and are in a public place and there are other people present, you may want to challenge your abuser and 'stand up for yourself.' Challenging someone's prejudices is a great thing to do as long as it doesn't put you in further danger. For example if you are confronted with someone who may turn violent it's probably best to ignore their remarks and instead remember what they look like and then report it to the Police immediately. Never challenge or provoke someone if you think it may put your safety at risk.
Step 3: Where to go for help
Tell the police - in many countries, including the UK, there is legislation to protect you from homophobic abuse. Most constabularies in the UK have LGBT liaison officers whose job it is to act as a link between the police and the LGBT communities.
If you don't feel comfortable going to the Police, tell GALOP, http://www.galop.org.uk, who offer telephone support, and (soon to offer) live online help - http://www.galop.org.uk/
If you're being bullied at work: http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/index.htm and http://www.banbullyingatwork.com and Andrea Adams Trust - http://www.andreaadamstrust.org
Trades Unions are very active in challenging workplace harassment.
Local councils if you are in local authority housing or public sector housing have active harassment policies.
Remember that reporting an abuser is not just for your own protection - you are also preventing other people from suffering from the same abuse.
Victims of abuse may also need counselling or therapy to deal with their experiences. Abuse can sometimes lead to post traumatic stress and affect our self-esteem, in which case professional help could be of use.
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Tips & Comments
I was abused by male staff member at a residential collage for 2 two yrs and I had no sexual education lessions at all at school when I went to collage the 1st year was fine then after that I had yrs of sheer hell I used to be druged up high on my sleeping tablets so he could do his deed he controlled my life totally then I told authorities stright away after leaving there but they did nothing they didnt want any negative publitaity at the time they left it and it until about 2 yrs ago that was after 13 yrs after it ended why because regulations state this sort of abuse reports cannot be ingnored on any level at all the police at the place I was at were awful to me but the police of where I lived were great to me after loads of interviews at this safe house they came to the concusion he did of I said he did but because it wasnt acted on at the time iitwas my word agaist his but he is on the at risk register for life also he cannot work in the care industry again but the did say to me that he could use a false in another county thought of that made me bubble but at least he hopfully wont ever work in the industry again I hope I did attempted suidside but I stoped this his anger with my self and got the help I needed in the end but to guys who are being abused or have been abused there is far more help and support for this than there has ever been before so if you can get that courage to report the abuse then do it because I wish I could of years ago but there wasn't really the acceptance or actknowagement this sort of abuse could of ever happend to a disabled person like me but it did but also really there wasnt acceptance of homotheopbic abuse towards stright people ether it is still in a way a taboo subject for men to talk about because with me I felt the failure of myself for not being able to protect myself as a human being but I have with the help of specialist officers came to the exceptance I wasn't to blame to all guys out there to any sort of abuse you are not alone try and get the help you need to you haven't fail yoursleve's at all get the help you need to. I was verbally abused and discriminated by somebody who is a staff leader at a gay friendly charity whith it is a popular charity with everybody as well as mixed or same sex communitys most people think they just give advice on sexual issues like HIV but they do a lot than this but I am gay and disabled guy, I was accused by staff leader of not being gay and was just going though a phase but I wasn't and not now I confronted them on it and as well as this person also a therapist stopped our group because they overousley they don't believe that disabled people can have same feelings as everybody else, I am glad I stuck up for myself but am sad the group shut down because we were not allowed to speak up for ourselves it angers me there is no equality's for anyone hardley these days it saddend that somebody who was gay like myself could have been so discriminating like this yet they are meant to be trained people our other person that was helping the group was a inderpenent sexuality counsliour who said nothing about this guys opinion at all before he joined the group. She always said she believed in equity for all but did nothing about ingnorant idiot at all. To me its all for one lot of people then another rule for another it really angers that somebody from that sort of a oraniseation like this could be like this and get away with it. Anyway I just would love guys to see me for me and not just my pshicial image also my personality too I went with this one guy earlyier this year I saw him 4 3 wks was fun while it lasted but all he wanted at the time was my body and not as a whole person I was at the time very overweight person who was close to death I had multiable of problems due to my weight I had to have the op no opsion but this gut just wanted me for his fantersy of going with a bigger person I like him both ways as personality and image too I was ignorant to go with him I regret meeting him totally do guys think is there anyone outhere for me I am begaining to wonder I admit I don't go to the clubs why because people I find can be quite nasty about people and mostlly guys who go there just want one night stands. Can anyone answer this might sound a bit crazy but I would like an honist answer if possible are there guys who go for personality before image first or is it just image is the most important thing all the way oh as well as he private bits of course lol Dan
haha the blonde guy is wearing hollister...that's usually what straight d0ods wear =l
yeah, derinch has a point, i dont know if the U.S. has any legislation against it yet... :/
the guy had an erection when he was challenging the bully. haha
The guy on the video looks very attractive to me!
Cool London GBLT Community. Enjoyed visiting in there for 6 days from September 2007. :)
thankyou for this and all your videos
It could be good to know that police were on my side if only i was living in London...Not every country has that kind of legistation as England's.
What about hitting the guy on the balls? That is what I would do. Sorry for being so spanish.
how is the best way to confront ? duh blah to authorities bleck ? get in the real world what is the best way to aproach/confront a homophobe