How To Get A Date
Tired of being a wallflower? Looking for love or at least companionship? Let Andy Jones give you the best basic tips you'll need to get that next date.
I'm going to be talking you through how to get a date. First of all, ban all the negatives. All those little voices in our head that say, “She's not going to like you because… he's not going to like you because of this…I'm too this, I'm too small, I'm too fat, I'm too thin”.
Whatever it is, we've all got our hang-ups. The difference between people who get dates and those who don't is that the people who get dates don't listen to all these little voices. If you're thinking to yourself, “It's more comfortable if I just never try.
If I never try, then I'll never get hurt”. Well, if you never try, you're never going to get a date. Feel the fear and go with it.
If somebody says no, it's no big problem. It's just feedback. It's not going to end your life.
It might be slightly embarrassing if they say no, but you're going to feel the fear and you're going to use it to your advantage next time. Give yourself value. If you have value yourself, people will want a part of you.
If you feel like you're not worth anything, people won't want to be around you. If you're slouching, for instance, in your seat, pull your shoulders back right now. Put your chin up.
Project your voice. Think, “I'm going to talk comfortably. I've got lots of interesting things to say.
People want to hear from me”. Project confidence. Also, take time over your appearance.
You don't have to spend hours and hours in the mirror. You don't have to spend a fortune in a clothes shop. But take care of the little details.
Fix your hair. Sort any dry skin out you've got. Think about your nails, think about what matches.
Wear clothes that fit you well. The chances are you've got a great figure just bursting to get out. You've loads that people are going to enjoy about you, and we're going to showcase all those fantastic qualities.
If you always worry you've got no interesting things to say, take an interest. Get hold of different magazines. Watch different shows that you've never watched before.
Go ahead and see lots of new films. Hang around with new groups of friends. Your body's like a huge sponge.
Your brain and the way you behave are like a huge sponge and you absorb all these fantastic qualities from fantastic people you hang around with, even really negative about yourself. Go and find friends who make you feel good about yourself. Your friends should make you feel fantastic.
If you feel fantastic, you're going to be easier to find a date. You can become a real catch. Also, if you go out with new groups of friends, what happens is that you get introduced to new people.
Think about it. If you're thinking, “I never get dates,” think about how often you actually go out and talk to new people. You hang around with the same people all the time.
When you meet people, try and meet as many new people as possible. Keep eye contact with them, keep an open body posture and smile. These are some really obvious simple points.
But they're about 60-70% of the way to getting you a date. .