How To Handle Calling Off Your Wedding
He's called off the wedding. Cancelled the venue. Taken the honeymoon tickets. And now, you're left to handle it all alone. Forget the embarrassment; this is grief. But take heart; you may have lost your lover, but you don't have to lose your mind.
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Step 1:
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Denial
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The first stage is denial. "It can't be happening to me," you think. "It's not really happening." Take some time to let yourself get used to the idea. Be good to yourself. You're not ready for reality quite yet…..
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Step 2:
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Anger
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The second stage is anger. That's right - you're furious! Now is the time for you to get mad, tear up his pictures, burn the gifts he gave you, and eradicate all artifacts of your time together.
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Step 3:
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Bargaining
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The third stage is bargaining. Go ahead - try to make a deal. If you lose 10 pounds, the wedding's back on. If your groom would just come back, you swear you'll never see your ex-boyfriend again! If you get "heads-up" three times in a row, your groom will call. You know this'll never work....but keep doing it as long as you need to stay sane.
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Step 4:
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Depression
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The fourth stage is depression. Embrace it. Wallow in it. Get lost in it. Don't shower, don't answer the phone, don't go to work. You're depressed! This is when the grieving process really happens. You've suffered a loss, and you have to experience the pain to move beyond it, whether you like it or not.
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Step 5:
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Acceptance
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The final stage is acceptance. Okay, he's not coming back. Forget him. The wedding's off. Big whoop. You're not so sure it'd have worked out anyway. It takes two to break up a wedding, and neither of you was ready. You can admit that now that you've gone through the grieving process. And you know what mistakes to avoid the next time around. Congratulations! You've handled it!
