How To Have A Better Relationship

Hello, I'm Sarah Lloyd-Hughes from Ginger Training and Coaching, and today I'd like to give you a bite-size coaching technique on personal development. If you would like any more information about my self or my company, please visit go-ginger.com.

How to have a better relationship? We all dream of that ideal relationship where everything is perfect. But in reality, relationships take time and persistence to make it work. Here are three juicy games you can play together to help improve your relationship, perhaps over a glass of wine.

Game 1: the Appreciation Game. The aim of the game is to appreciate the other person as much as possible. Start by telling your partner one thing that you appreciate him or her for and then he or she tells you something they appreciate you for.

Take it in turn and see how many things you can think of about each other. Your appreciation can be for absolutely anything big or small. The only rule is no bullying.

You're not allowed to tell the other person, “Oh, me too” to their appreciation. It has to be something different. The winner is the person that can go on the longest.

Game 2 is the Generosity Game. This is a game that you can play on your own or as a couple. The idea is to do as many tiny generous little things for your partner as possible over the course in a week.

It could be anything from getting lunch ready to leaving a little love note in your partner's pocket, to buying a bottle of wine instead of the usual beers. See how much you can give ad crucially, don't expect anything in return. Otherwise, it's not really giving.

If you don't expect anything in return, then whatever comes back to you will be a wonderful surprise. And game 3 is the Exciting Things to Do Game. It's easy to get stuck in a rut in relationships when you're seeing the same people, doing the same things week after week.

Next time you have a free day, play the exciting things to do game. Each of you get to nominate 5 exciting things to do and write them down each on a separate piece of paper. Make them something unusual you think you'd both enjoy.

Then share each other's 5 things and each of you have the option of one veto, one thing that you'd least like to do from that list. Now, put all of those options into a hat and draw out two things. Have a look at them, interesting.

Now, take those two options and get ready to leave the house. Once you're out of the house, you're going to do a final blind choice and go with the decision. It's guaranteed to be a day to remember.

I hope those tips help you to put the spice back into your relationship. Do have a look at the other videos in this series for plenty more tips on personal development or you can head over to the Ginger Training and coaching website, go-ginger.com, to hear about coaching programs we run for individuals and organizations.