How To Have Friends With Benefits
Friends with benefits, pals with privileges, bed buddies... whatever you call it, the idea of a sexual friendship has become very popular among young professionals who are too busy for a serious relationship. There's no rule book when it comes to this type of arrangement, but there are some tips to help you be a friend with benefits.
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Step 1:
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Best Bets
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Odds will be in your favor if your "friend" is a mature adult who has already experienced a long-term relationship, isn't emotionally needy, and respects your privacy. If it's an old friend or a friend of a friend, you may already know a lot about their character. A co-worker adds the "easy access" factor, but be careful if your company has a policy against inter-office romances.
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Step 2:
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Sexpectations
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Get the rules out in the open from the beginning. Talk about the potential consequences of this relationship, like pregnancy, infectious diseases, or plain old social embarrassment. Agree that it's okay to ask, and equally okay to just say no. You can promise not to tell anyone and agree that you both have the right to deny it completely.
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Step 3:
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What Kind Of Benefits?
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Consider your options. Make out buddies mean kissing and fondling only. This can be difficult for some. After all, one thing tends to lead to another. But if you both have good self-control, more power to you! Massage buddies are also only for the strong-willed. Massage buddies take turns being the giver and receiver. Enjoy a great massage and maybe an occasional happy ending. Full coverage benefits mean anything goes. But be careful: sex means intimacy. Avoid extra kissing and cuddling while in a full benefits type of relationship. It can send conflicting messages.
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Step 4:
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Be Spontaneous
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When the mood strikes, contact your friend. Spontaneity is key in a "friends with benefits" relationship. Anticipation is the best part, after all. Try texting your FWB during a grueling workday; see if he can get away to meet you for lunch. It's as easy as that!
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Step 5:
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Done.