How To Improve Interpersonal Skills
This VideoJug presentation shows you how to improve your interpersonal skills with the aid of some simple coaching techniques.
Hello, I'm Sarah Lloyd-Hughes from Ginger Training and Coaching, and today I'd like to give you a bite-size coaching technique on personal development. If you would like any more information about my self or my company, please visit go-ginger.com.
How to improve your interpersonal skills? Hello, welcome in. Interpersonal skills are the way you relate to people in whatever you do, and having good interpersonal skills can make a real difference in home and work situations, from making friends to being chosen in an interview situation. So how do you improve your interpersonal skills? I'm going to show you three quick tips that I use for my public speaking clients that help you build rapport quickly and effectively.
You have three tools of your disposal for improving your interpersonal skills – your body, your voice and your mind. Here's a quick tip on each. First of all, body.
Body language is essential in showing somebody that you're comfortable with them. It sends very subtle messages to your partner about whether you seem friendly, tensed, or relaxed. Think about how your body feels when you're with somebody that you feel comfortable with.
Probably you're very calm in the body or loose around the shoulders. Now, see what changes when you're in a situation that's more uncomfortable. Notice any awkward fidgets like scratching, any tensed parts of your body that look defensive like a clenched fist or crossed arms.
Once you've noticed that, say thank you very much to that part of your body and just let the tension relax. Secondly, the way that you speak affects your interpersonal skills. Most of us have said something in a conversation that we look back onto and regret.
One of those foot-in-the-mouth moments that makes us feel awkward and our conversation partner feel awkward, too. Our top tip here is to notice that you have two ears and one mouth. Listen and ask questions twice as much as you talk about yourself.
Then, anybody having a conversation with you will leave feeling “Wow, that was a great conversation.” Finally, how do you use your mind to improve your interpersonal skills? Your mind is where all of the nerves and doubts sit that will affect how your body and your voice act. So, this is where the really powerful change happens.
Most people who have problems with interpersonal skills harbour a belief about a particular person or type of people that they interact with. For many years, I had a belief that if somebody was in a high position of responsibility, that they wouldn't want to talk to me, which made me feel awkward in interacting with them. So, notice what feelings and assumptions you have in your mind about interacting with somebody, and allow that that is just your assumption.
Instead, replace your assumptions with the idea that this is also a person who gets nervous, this is also a person who has good days and bad days just like you. Start your communication from a calm and positive place. If you'd like to see what Ginger Training and Coaching can do to help you with your interpersonal skills, whether it's being more confident within yourself or even jumping up on stage to communicate with others, head on ever to go-ginger.
com to find out more.