How To Leave Your Wife
How To Leave Your Wife
This video gives some very practical advice to help one prepare to leave one's wife. The information contained can also be applied to leaving one's husband.
Today, I'm going to talk to you about how to leave your wife. Now, leaving anyone is a really big thing, especially if you're married and there are children involved, so I think it's really key for you to take some time out and work out if this is really what you want to do. Have you done everything to try and repair your relationship? Have you sat down and had a conversation? Maybe gone externally to get some help and support? Spoken to a friend or confidant, someone you trust? Have you done everything possible to repair this relationship? If so, and you still feel that you want to leave your wife, then I think the key thing is to find the right time to sit down and have a conversation.
Please don't do it by email or text or anything that is just not compassionate. You at least owe it to her to at least sit down and have a chat to her face. Try to avoid going down the road of blaming.
It's hard enough trying to leave someone, and the other person, knowing that the relationship is coming to an end, if you start with blaming them and telling them everything negative and everything that's gone wrong. So, there might be issues that come up. There might be habits or behaviors that have led you to making this decision, but in that single conversation, try and put it to one side and just make sure that you're at least creating an atmosphere that doesn't become too bitter.
Try not to have a conversation in a space, I think, that is too personal or that has too many strong memories. So maybe find somewhere neutral or somewhere positive where you can sit down and have this conversation. And I think, be clear as to your reasons why you want to leave without it being negative.
Then, I think what's really, really key if you know that you do want to leave your wife, is looking at where you move forward from there. Do you share a home? Are there children involved? Are there any other family members or things that are going to make it quite complicated? So I think what you need to do is to have a plan in place so that once you've told your wife that you want to leave her what happens next? Who stays where? Who does what? I think if you go with an open heart and go with the intention that this isn't about blaming, it isn't about being negative, it's about moving forward because you're not happy, then at least that will take a little bit of an edge off of the situation. There are lots of reasons why people feel like they need to leave a relationship.
I think as long as you do it in a compassionate way, then there's no reason why it needs to get bitter. So, sit down and have the conversation once you're pretty sure that's what you want to do. Go somewhere that's neutral.
Look at what's the after-plan, what happens next and I think that if you stick to all of that and you're very clear, then there's no reason why you can't move forward in a healthy way and then hopefully find love again. This video gives some very practical advice to help one prepare to leave one's wife. The information contained can also be applied to leaving one's husband.