How To Make The First Move

How To Make The First Move

This VideoJug film is designed to help you decide how to make the first move. If you like someone, but don't know how to take it further, let VideoJug help you make the first move and get that kiss.

Step 1: Read the signals

Before initiating any kind of move, look for body language clues such as prolonged eye contact to help you work out whether you'll get a positive response.
A woman may be more willing than usual to expose certain areas of her body like her neck or wrists. She may touch you, or display self-grooming gestures.
A man may exhibit more animalistic signals or ownership gestures, to impress a potential mate. These may include resting an arm on the back of her chair, puffing out his chest or widening his shoulders.
Both partners may engage in 'mirroring', which is subconsciously copying the actions of the other person's body positions.

Step 2: Conversation

If they find someone attractive, men and women won't necessarily say what they're really thinking. Instead of listening to what is being said, concentrate on how it is being said
If he says, 'I'm interested in art'. He may mean 'I am interested in you"
If she says, ' What's your favourite surrealist painting?'
She may mean, 'Are you genuinely interested?'
If he says, 'I love Dali's The Persistence of Memory'
He may mean, 'I'm trying really hard here because you're hot'
If she says 'I've got that on my bedroom wall'
She may mean 'I want you to see it'.

Step 3: If the woman is making the first move

The male form is majestic, enticing and readily available.
Approach with free abandon and curious hands.
Be a predator. Remove any unnecessary items of clothing. The only potential problem that could arise will occur when choosing topics of conversation. Don't mention ex-boyfriends, health problems, or your imminent desire for babies.

Step 4: If the man is making the first move

The female form is mysterious, enticing and notoriously difficult to get hold of. Approach with caution.
Certain parts of the body should not be touched initially. Instead, try lightly touching less intimate areas of the body- such as the upper arm, or the outer leg nearest to you.

Step 5: The kiss

If they haven't rejected your advances so far, then you can start to feel more confident about stealing a kiss. For specific tips on kissing, watch VideoJug's 'How to kiss someone passionately'. It takes guts to go for a kiss, and if you are feeling out of your comfort zone, try to relax, as lack of confidence is rarely attractive to your partner. Maintain eye contact, lean in and pause when your faces are close but not touching, to allow the other person space to escape or, hopefully, lean in too.