How To Talk To Anyone
How To Talk To Anyone
Do you get tongue-tied every time you are at a party where you know no one? Help is at hand with this video which demonstrates how being natural, calm and self-assured can pave the way for a great conversation whether it is at a date or an interview.
It is funny, talking is a very natural instinctive thing to do. We do it every day of our lives to all sorts of people. But being able to talk to anyone, certainly someone we have not been introduced to or don't know that well, if at all, suddenly stumps us.
It does not make sense. Talking is like breathing, it is a natural thing to do and that is the way you have to see it. But let us take a scenario, somebody there could be, someone on the street, for instance.
It could be someone who is famous. Now, there is an example, for my book, Don't Shoot, I Am Not Well - Confidence For When You Really Need It, there were some very famous people in there, very well-known people but when I saw them at these various events, these different events I went to, they were surrounded by often swarms of fawning, slightly nervous, obsequious people who wanted their attention, were overawed by them. I just went out to them, “Hello, I am Sean.
I want to talk to you. I would like you to be in my book, let us talk further,” and because I was natural, relaxed and talked amongst their level and seemed very at ease, they actually were really reassured and they felt much more comfortable with that and therefore, they talked to me and ignored these fawning queues of people. It is about being at ease with yourself, liking yourself, but again, focusing on the other person.
Put yourself in their position. As with all forms of communication, whether it is your dating communication, professional communication, whatever it might be, always put yourself in the other person's position. What would they like, what would they not like? In terms of the way you speak, what you say, how you say it, your body language, your attitude and general behaviour and that will give you a shrewd idea.
Because you know what you like or don't like in a scenario and say that to people and you will surprised as to how they react. Often, if they are famous people or very important senior boss, they will actually be very relieved that you talked to them normally and more likely ironically, to treat you with respect unlike some of the people who are trying too hard to impress them by saying what they hope will be the right thing. Be yourself, be natural.
Natural is by the way, one of the most attractive nays, one of the qualities a man or a woman can have in a personal or professional environment. So be yourself, enjoy talking to them and you know what, if they are rude, it is their loss. .