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How To Work With Your Ex
Working with your ex is a situation no one wants to face. But with VideoJug's excellent advice, you and your ex will soon be best workmates without that underlying tension.
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Step 1:
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Be professional
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Whatever is going on in your love life, from 9-5 your mind should be on your job. Don't dwell on the reasons for your break up, its over - move on. Stop staring longingly at them with tears in your eyes, and restrain yourself from scrawling insults over their desk. From this moment on see that person as a colleague, just like everyone else in your workplace.
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Step 2:
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Talk it out
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Discreetly take your ex to one side away from prying eyes. State that what's past is past, it will be difficult but you are looking forward to being workmates.
Mention that this is important for both your jobs and your happiness. If they don't share your mature attitude don't scoop to their level, don't give each other the cold shoulder, or even worse, mud slinging in the office is not going to make either of you look good. The more normal you act, the more likely they are going to follow suit.
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Step 3:
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Avoid sensitive topics
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Wounds may still be raw so don't rub them. It's wise not to flirt with the new temp in their presence, or start reminiscing about what a great time you had in Ibiza together last year. And never, ever bring up the break-up - unless you want to relive it one last time.
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Step 4:
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Other colleagues
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Misery attracts company. Mentioning you are having issues with your ex will see the whole sorry episode picked over again and again by your gossip hungry colleagues, they may even begin to take sides.
Less scurrilous workmates might feel excluded or embarrassed by your situation. Keep your affairs to yourself and prevent your life being turned into a soap opera.
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Step 5:
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Give it time
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Don't expect to immediately have the same working rapport with your ex as you have with your other colleagues. It will take time but eventually you may develop an even better relationship.
Now get back to work!
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