Myth: Women Desire A Man With A Large Penis
Are women really all that interested in a partner with a large penis? What does science tell us about size? Does it really matter? Join Dr. June to discover the truth behind the myth. For more information on love and health, or to read a full transcript of this video, visit http://www.loveandhealth.info
Step 1: Introduction
We’re going to bust another myth and the myth we’re going to bust today is; “Women truly desire a man a larger penis”. This is something that I think men are concerned about. Why do I think men are concerned about this? Because I got thousands of questions about this from men. Men worry a lot about the size of their penis’s and we’ll talk about that another time, but today we’ll ask the question if whether women are concerned about the largeness of the size of the penis of their partner.
Step 2: What Men Think
Now it is not surprising that men are concerned about this issue because they are. It’s very important to them, the size of their penis. And since sex is very important to men and men are very interested in very physical attributes and are very interested in physical attributes that women find attractive they will certainly ask about that kind of thing and be concerned about that kind of thing. And as men are so visually; sexually, and we know that, visual stimulation is very important to men; sexually. They tend to use visual stimulation to arouse themselves and this probably not just something that they prefer in an ordinary kind of woman way, but probably dates all the way back, evolutionarily, to the our beginnings as a species and as a mammal. The human species is part of the evolutionarily mammalian line and we are hunter gatherers and the males are hunters when we were cave people.
Step 3: Stone Age Men
Vision was a very important thing to men. In order of males in impregnate females they must have an erection in order to get the sperm in the right place. And it’s important for him to be erect as quickly as possible so that, especially in the olden days long ago, so that he could impregnate a female as quickly as possible because there was lion, tigers and bears and other males around who would be very ready to take his place. And so vision is, evolutionarily, a very important part of the stimulation process for men and so men are more visually aroused then females and so physical parts of women arouse men and get him ready for impregnation and reproduction.
Step 4: Men & Visual Aspects of Sexuality
So it’s very important to men, the visual aspects of sexuality, and the female bodies and so therefore they would feel that visual aspects are very important to females. Well actually there not nearly as important for females as they are for males. Women are much more, in general, are much more turned on by touch and smell then men are. So since a man’s penis is so important to him physiologically and so important to his sense of masculinity and sexuality it is probably quite natural that he should think that it’s essential to women’s evaluation of him as a sexual partner. And since most people think that bigger is better, or particularly Americans I guess, I have found that men are very concerned about their penis’s are not large enough and women must therefore must prefer men with a larger penis. But really, what does the data say?
Step 5: What Women Think
Well first of all there has been a relatively recent study of 370 women in the Netherlands who had just delivered babies, and they asked; “at what impotence did they attach to the size of a penis of their partners?” And they would ask a number of other questions about the sexual functioning in their relationships. Now here’s what they said: 77% of them, that’s more than 3 out of 4, reported that either penile length was unimportant to them or very unimportant to them and only 1% of these women, that’s 1 out of 100, said that penile length was very important to them. Women’s opinion about girth, that’s how wide the penis is, went the same way as length, although there was a little more importance in girth then length.
Step 6: The Research
Now let’s keep in mind that these researchers were not asking men about the relative importance about penis size in relationship to other men attributes; physical, mental and physiological. They were just asking about the importance about penis size. So let’s see what research tells us about what women find attractive about men, all parts of them both physical and other points.
Step 7: How Men See Themselves
But first let’s see what men say when asked what they think women find attractive about men physically: Men say muscular chest and shoulders, that’s number 1. Then they say muscular arms. Then they say a large penis, 15% say that and 4th is tallness, with 13% of them saying that. Now when women were asked in the same survey what they thought was important or what they admired psychically about men: number 1, by far, was buttocks, backsides – interesting. So women are attracted to men’s backsides. Number 2 was slimness, number 3 was eyes, number 4 was a large penis with 2%, only 2% mentioning large penis. The next one was muscular chest and shoulders with 1% and not one women mentioned muscular arms, 0%.
Step 8: What Women Find Sexually Attractive
Now in another study when women were asked about physical attributes they found sexually attractive they reported; firm muscle tone as number 1, well groomed hair was number 2, a clear complexion was number 3 and white teeth was number 4. Now that’s kind of interesting because if you notice, all of those things are something that you could attain. You could get firm muscle tone by going to the gym and could have well groomed hair by taking care of your hair everyday and you could have a clear complexion because there are lots of ways of doing that by taking care of yourself and eating right and if necessary by going to a dermatologist and doing what’s necessary to get that and of course white teeth is something that everyone can obtain, it’s easier and easier nowadays. So these are all obtainable things that almost everyman can get.
Step 9: Futher Studies
Another study has told us that: all things being equal, most women will choose the tallest man above all other men who are equal in a way. So tallness is something women find attractive. But another study showed that given the choice among all physical factors, even with tallness, women will choose handsomeness, handsomeness over tallness. So they choose the man who they think is the handsomeness, even if one is taller than the other, they’ll take the handsome one over the tall one.
Step 10: British Study on Women's Sexual Views
A British study, asking women about body parts: what’s most sexually attractive about men? They said that the most important thing was the man’s face and then came his hair – hair seems to be important. Then shoulders, although nowadays women like no hair at all too. And then came chest, shoulders and chest were pretty much the same. Then came hands, so having your hands clean and well cared for is very important. But there are a lot of none physical factors that women list as sexually attractive, so these are very important too and they include: the willingness to share emotions and thoughts, very interesting. A good sense of humour and dependability – those are very important attributes that women find sexually attractive. And another thing, the most valued general aspects were personality and intelligence.
Step 11: Presentable Men
Still another study asking women about men’s more sexually attractive traits revealed that, again, being well groomed, showering daily and keeping physically fit are important attributes that women find sexually attractive and again are all attainable, so you guys out there can do it! And again, attractive physiological traits included: a sense of humour, comes up again, being sympathetic – she likes you to listen to her, don’t talk about yourself all the time. Having good manners, being helpful, women like it when you pick up the package, and making an effort to spend time with your partner, this is very important. If all your doing is watching sports with your buddies and lifting beers, this doesn’t make you sexually attractive, a women wants to know if you are willing to spend time with her; this is very, very important, this is sexy.
Step 12: Conclusion
So, what’s the point? Of course there are some women who see penis size as important, just like some men, that if they don’t have a woman with large breasts, they can’t get it up. But that’s a small group; most men can be attracted to lots of women with lots of different characteristics and in most women, penis size is very, very low on their list of priorities and for many of them, it’s not even on the list at all. The best news is that the most important attributes for man, to make him attractive to a woman are things that he can actually work on and obtain himself. There obtainable at the gym and they are obtainable in the bathroom by using the shower. So exercise, be clean, smell sweet, be helpful, get a great hair cut, be polite to her and her family, share your feelings and your emotions with her, spend time doing things with your women and you’ll go a long way to being her ideal man and you’re more likely get laid. When you do find yourself with her in bed be sure to ask her what makes her feel good and enjoy the process and relax, it is very likely that her estimation of you as a lover will be gargantuan.
