Love & Dating

Relationship Issues: Text Messaging

Arguing about why your partner did not respond immediately to your text, email or phone call? We look at why these relationship issues occur, what lies beneath the surface of the argument, and how to resolve your relationship problems concerning communication, and especially text messaging. Enlarge

Relationship Issues: Text Messaging

Arguing about why your partner did not respond immediately to your text, email or phone call? We look at why these relationship issues occur, what lies beneath the surface of the argument, and how to resolve your relationship problems concerning communication, and especially text messaging.

Step 1: The Problem

This argument is about one person not responding to text messages, or emails or phone calls as readily or quickly as the other.

Step 2: What it's really about

This argument is actually all about levels of intimacy, and perceived support in a relationship.

Step 3: The solution

Some people grow up in very close, emotionally supportive households, and some in less intimate environments. Some regard constant contact as normal, and others find it emotionally draining to be in touch every second of the day with their partners. There is no 'normal'- for how quickly one should respond to contact; but one should respect each others needs for emotional support and intimacy. Talk it through, being open and honest, even if it sounds 'silly' or 'cold.' Learn to understand each others intimacy needs.