Thats ok. Next time around remember partners can come and go but you only get one mother, father and so many children and they are around for life. She can and will be replaced! Life is a learning process, you will be wiser next time around. Just make sure you are protected and dont consider having more kids until you know that this person would make an ideal mother and that you are settled, even married so you would automaticly have legal joint responsibility for the child.

thank you very much, im gonna try my best to note all these things down and go through the process you have mentioned. really appreciate your help. just feel so used, because i do and gave evrything for her i even neglected my family, an i just cant believe shes done this to me. thanks again.

By the way, hope you keep texts she sent you. Try ringing her keeping your cool but discussing some of these issues eg; remember when.... what about... and recording the calls with her freely admitting etc. Take your statements {credit card ones} to your local police station, if theres a conviction she will also be deemed as a dishonest person. No matter how angry you are just dont give her any indication of what your doing against her or she will get clever and start to get ready to fight back before you have a chance to do anything.

The benefit fraud is a seperate issue. You can ring the local dhss tomorrow morning and ask to speak to the fraud department. Give them all the details, they will deal with that. You can collect evidence from friends/relatives who know her just dont tell them your intentions. Also write down everything you can think of that she,s done and approx dates. you know her temper/ routine more than anyone. The shaking incident will get the attention of social services and gaer them into action, the other things add weight. Make notes so you dont forget things, then go along to the social services dept for the area where she lives, [you will find address in internet or phone book]. Say you are seriously concerned for his welfare, all is never as it seems behind closed doors and they are experienced in these things. Ask to speak to someone from the children and families division. Express all your concerns and they should keep you informed as to what they are going to do about it. If they dont, keep on their back. You can also phone the Child Protection Team at your local police station and tell them whats going on. But make sure you apply for a residence order in the meantime. All can be done in one day, then sit back and things will get moving and you will be one step nearer to having your son with you.

what if i cant remember specific dates? also because i were not speaking and i have no contact with her or my daughter i dont know whats going on? so it will be hard for me to get any evidence of her neglecting or selling drugs. as well as her doing benefit fraud before she started working.

You must get Social Services involved as your childs safety is at risk and if she shook her once too often you will never forgive yourself for not doing anything earlier. You can type in Residence Order get the information and download an application form. You dont need a solicitor. You do need a DNA test done though which social services can help you with. Your daughter cant defend herself so you must act for her. Dont communicate with the mother anymore but collect evidence against her, log everything down in a diary, incidents, dates everything especially things you can use against her concerning neglect, drugs, violence, alcohol abuse, not meeting your daughters needs etc

mothers can do so much and not be held responcilble for their actions to where fathers can make one wrong move and they are done for, I feel sorry for any man out there that had a baby without being married you are pretty much screwed!

good luck with that because unless you have hard proof that she is unfit then you will not win Custody! Sorry we have the same crap goign on in our lives and it stinks

make an appointment with a solicitor, you can always afford one because they will sort out the legal aid for you if you dont have enough money. Have the solicitor file an Non Molestation Order against your other half, that will prevent them from coming within a 50 meter radius of you, family, friends, work and home. if they breach this they will go to prison but make sure you get it on camera, have a neutral witness, or even better phone the police when they are doing it. Also have your solicitor file for a residents order, on the grounds that your childs safety is at risk. your girlfriend will then have to give the child to you until a court a hearing approx 1 week later. From there your solicitor will file for permanent residence and both of you will be interviewed and checked to ensure that you are not putting the child at risk. these people are experts and if your girlfriends are doing what you say they are they will find out

i have a 1 yr old daughter, during the birth of my daughter and after i sacrificed working to look after her while my ex wanted to go back into work full time. we were staying at her parents, even thought she had a flat from the council that she only used when she had an argument with her dad. in february we had a big fight, because i think she's dealing drugs, and did not want that around my child. i left the flat after and barely spoken to her since, tried to call her to arrange for her to bring my daughter to my mothers as i and my family have not seen my daughter for a month now and also she turning 1 on april the 1st. she didnt get back to me an just avoided me and doesnt want anything to do with me. which is fine but i dont want my daughter to be stuck in the middle of this. i then got a call from the police station saying that shes made an allegation that im harrasing her fone which is obsurd! i barely spoke to her so since then i havent tried calling her incase she says im harrassing her. i explained to the police what happened and he said that shes obviosuly made a malicious allegation out of spite.im in debt so at the moment im tryna get myself back on my feet, gota job now that pays the bills atleast. i have debt of £5000 on 2 credit cards which happened in 2006 done by cash withdrawals and at the moment there holding me liable, but i gota txt the other day from a number i dont know saying that "lifes abit hard with no money"? i think its her that sent it, i then looked at my fraud statements carefully and it links to her in a few ways, with the areas of where the withdrawals were made. im so angry because i never suspected her when i first discovered the fraud in 2006 and now im thinkin it could of been her because no-one else would manage to get access to my pin which is stored on my fone. i did everything for her, when her parents kicked her out on the street, i helped her, gave her money, put a roof over her head, got her a job and now i feel so betrayed. i dont care about her now all i care about is my daughter, and want my daughter to stay with me. she didnt put my name on her birth certificate because she said that if she did she wouldnt get benefits or something, and when she said that she stopped getting benefits because she went back into fulltime work i asked her to put my name on the certificate but she'd always avoid it. shes a benefit fraud because we had savings in her account of about 15k, which when DWP asked her about it she said her mother gave it to her for my daughter because she sold the house and moving back to the phillipines which is untrue because her mother is still here and did not giver that money (her mother doesnt even no about the money). ive also been gettin threat txts saying to watch out if im ever in her area where she lives, im sure it is her who sent me the txtts, aswell as that ive also bin gettin prank calls through out the day and night, also at my house fone, and my mother has also been getting prank calls too. when we were together, there were times where she would shake my daughter in the night because she was annoyed that my daughter is crying because shes hungry. i just want to take care of my daughter and want her to live with me....i dont know how to go about it all........