Interesting.... Im going thru the same with my boyfriend. He feel Im cornering him in arguments and that makes him furious and I end up being b***h, psycho, sicko, etc. We have serious issues when it comes to communication. I truly wish he would learn how to comunicate, so we could communicate with each other instead ofyelling at each other every day.. We've been together for a year. And despite all our arguments I truly love him. ust wish we could find way to work thru the differences. Whn he calls me names. I leave. He knows that. I've left the country even. Left him in another country and so on... I mean what I say! But damn, how do I teach a man to communicate, when he's alredy give up.... He asthe rest apologizes after the namecalling..but its nt good enough... Its primitive, low and disrespectful. I cant have it... what to do,what to do? :( I really hope for good advices. Thanx :)

LEAVE HIM!

I was in something similar once; I almost married him. A few years later, I am so very glad that I didn't. Pay attention, is it really just name calling, or does he make other demeaning comments and blanked insults?

you ditch the disrespectful b*****d silly .....you should never be with a man who treats you badly . a real man would treat his woman with respect

It's just anger, and it could just be that you hurt him and he is trying to regain control by hurting you back in the argument. The real problem would be these fights and what kind of frequency they are happening that is making your frustrated with the relationship. It sounds like the real problem could be that your are having trouble resolving things before they get heated. It doesn't sound, from what you said, like this is an abusive relationship, just an mildly abusive action happening in the heat of argument.

i would say call him names back cuz he only does it to get to u

LEAVE HIM NOW!! I am in a marriage that is very similar. Everytime he gets upset (usually at silly things) he blows up and calls me every name in the book. And SURPRISE...he says he is sorry after and won't do it again. Abusers cannot usually stop this kind of behavior. You need to decide...can you live with his name calling abuse (which will get worse) or not? If not, run like the wind! There are plenty of men out there who are kind, honest, and caring. NO ONE deserves being verbally assulted by their loved ones! The person who said to 'just blow it off' has obviously never had this experience. If you threaten to leave, you MUST do it! He will always believe that you will just come right back. Good luck!!

Oh you are welcome hun! Let me know how it goes and good luck! Jessica13 xxx

Thank you Jessica13 xxx. I am now better equipped with the mentality to talk to him more effiiciently about this name calling crap! You rock, thanks again!

My advice is, ask yourself what he really thinks of you. Sometimes, in a heated arguement people can say things they don't mean but equally the truth comes out! Sometimes, people resort to name calling as they are not intelligent enough to fight back so name calling is their way of winning the fight on points. He may apologise after the fight but how many times have you sat there on your own going through the names he called you? If it hurts and is frustrating for you then you must offer him an ultimatum no name or I am leaving. If you threaten to leave then you must do it. This in my opinion is a form of mental abuse and he has no right to put you through it. Look at yourself, do you have high self-esteem? Are you confident? Why would you stay with a man that undermines and chips away at your confidence in this way? Anyone who loved you would not call you the sorts of names he does. There are plenty of other guys who will treat you with respect and not call you names in a fit of pique. Ask yourself why you are allowing yourself to become his verbal punchbag. Love Jessica13 xxx