In my experience, rather than rushing into seeing an ex it is much more useful to have a long hard think about what exactly you want out of it. Then, do it again but imagine you are a friend of both of you two and imagine what he or she would feel. It is very rare that people would want to wade in and apologise for the very best of reasons. If you want to apologise, you are suggesting that you respect her enough to give her what she wants. It sounds like she wants to be left alone. Truly sorry about the situation, I learnt this stuff the hard way. So many people break up and want to see their exes for all sorts of reasons, when really they just don't want to admit that they miss their ex. It is okay to miss an ex, you were with them for a reason! However, please be aware of what she wants - I'm sure if she was desperate for an apology you would know it by now.

i hope this dosen't sounds rude but....if you don't want her back i strongly suggest you just leave her alone, because if she's acting angry and what not than that shows that she still cares & by apologizing and trying to communicate with her you're going to make her think that you do want her back and you are going to hurt her even more than you apparenlty already have & i know this because my ex boyfriend did the same to me & just when i thought we where getting somewhere he made it quite clear that he just wanted to be friends.....i would of much rather have had him leave me alone all together so atleast that way i could of forgetten the whole situation.

I agree with the letter idea. Letters are waaaay more personal than txting or calling. If its possible, put your feeling into writing and make shure there is a way for her to get it. (optional) include a gift or some sort of appology token. WARNING: This may, or may not work, but is good to try. Hope this helps. -David

I have been in that situation. You were right. As the girl in that same case, I think the real purpose of the guy is to relieve himself of the guilt. Such a selfish act! If you cannot sincerely apologize and admit your mistakes, suck your pain and leave the girl alone so she can move on.

I am in a similar situation and empathize with you. What worked was being polite and giving it some time. And then I called and appreciated being heard but did not get the results I needed. So I am too, back at square one and feeling the same. It is because we care about the other person, we are sorry for what we did and/or said and then take it from there.

From what you have said she it is an absolute certainty that she knows what you are wanting and trying to do. I agree with several of the previous posters advice. You want to impose your wants and needs on her and she has made it very clear that she does not wish to discuss it with you. It takes two to tango. Take the advise of the last poster and let it go, move on and heal yourself. I in no way take back anything I've said but from what you have said I am curious why you are able to have so much contact with her.

Leave her alone, and let it be. Focus on healing yourself and move on with your life.

You could write her a letter.

but if she still brushes u off move on she is just being stubborn u did you part so u shouldnt feel any guilt

tell her that u were in the wrong for what u did and say that u were sorry and she had every right to be upset.tell her ur feelings say i know it could have worked out between us but i screwed up so now i guess i have to move on. and see what happens Good luck!