so there's this girl and her name is brandi and were cool and all but not like good friends, i had a best friend named brandy and she killed herself....and the more i look at this brandi the more i think of my best friend brandi. I never had feeling for my best friend.....but i can't seem to get the other Brandi out of my head. I think about her all the time, what we could do together. but i know i'm not gay cause i don't think like this about other women just her. I think i'm falling for her and i can't get her out of my head. I tried to tell her this but it came out wrong and now she won't talk to me and i don't know how to talk to her. But she said stuff that made me think that she had feeling for me first but i asked her and she said no, but i still feel like she's keeping something from me. What should i do? Help, I can't get her out of my mind? But i know i'm not gay or bi!!!!

u just no, if ur not sure then may b u shud explore all areas of sex and sleep with different people whether they are man or women.i wud say u will 100% no after as long as u dont deny it

purplerose, i posted in your other topic about this. the male g spot is located up that end, which will explain why he likes it!! it in no way means he's gay. as for the original question, the first thing you need to do is acknowledge and accept each attraction, whether it be another boy or a girl. most likely you're bi, but take it slowly, and figure it out yourself. no one can tell you outright what you are, you have to realise that for yourself.

what if a guy is obviously aroused by women, but likes to have anal stimulation? also, spends alot of free time at a buddy's house, who is married. Are these indications of gay tendencies or could this be a threesome thing or is it that he just has a buddy and it is entirely unrelated the fact that he discovered that "that" pleases him?

simple question "what would you do if you had boobs or a vag", if you would play with them and/or rub them your straight if you would just be normal your gay

any event in your childhood which could trigger out this feeling of urs??

Often the signs are not as clear cut as some people may make them seem. It can be well subconcious sometimes and be quite impossible to idenify. I used to think i was straight for a long time, until i got a bit tipsy one night and made out with a girl friend. From then on, i fell deeply in love with her. Looking back though, i realised the signs had been there all along, but i was probably too naive to notice. I'm openly bisexual now. I currently have a boyfriend and he knows and he's ok with it. So in my case, since i've fallen in love with a woman before, its important to acknowledge that i would love and appreciate a woman as i would a man. i love as love can be. Thats how i define my bisexuality. 23 year old SL.

Gay is a choice, don't go there.

Have you not seen the Videojug on this topic in the L&G section? Sounds like you may be bi.

but I mean it's not like I can just go to a club and meet somebody, I'm 15 and I'm really confused...sometimes I see a guy and feel like really attracted to him, but other times when I see a guy I'm more interested in the girl he is with, I'm not sure of how I feel, I feel like something's wrong with me, I'm the only one in my family who feels this way, I havent told this to anyone yet and (I'm not planning to do it either) maybe the fact that I have 3 brothers and no sisters has influenced I dont know!...the worst thing is that I have a boyfriend and I love him but all this thoughts and feelings are making me doubt and because of them I dont love him the way I used to...please help...!!