Sheree- Iam this person you speak of darlin. I hope you sign in sometime and read this. (I know your not my darlin anymore, but thats what I will always call you). Not once did I stop loving you or intend to lose you. But I couldnt take your constant pressure and demands, you know as wellas me, how this was the root of our problem. I know Iam to blame for burying my head in the sand, but I just thought we were strong enough to ride this out and waited for it to pass. once the contact stopped, I missed you like crazy. I still do. I just needed that chance to miss you to feel it had passed. Your calls, mail and texing smothered me darlin. I felt asphxyated. I couldnt let my feelings breathe. It pushed me away and kept me away. I wished with all my heart I had just listened more closely to you as well as my innerself. I wanted to fix us and have our good times again. Like you said, we never argued or fell out over anything other than the `us` talk that just wouldnt go away. I know you have moved on now, and happy in another relationship, but I do kick myself and wish it was all so different. Dont be afraid to talk, if ever you want to. You know where Iam if you do. Even if its 20+yrs time, if you want to contact.. Even though you woint talk to me now, perhaps in time we can. I wont turn you away again darlin,not ever. regardless of my circumstances. I love and miss you, more than you will ever realise.. You are my rock that washed away. Stay happy Jason XXX

after 6 years that i split up from my ex. i still have contact with him and have the same feelings for him even though i already have 3 boys with someone else. I try loving my partner but I cant I still see my ex. and when im around him im happy and I could be my self even though he would use domestic violence on me. and my current partner has ever touch me even try calling me names. I already got cough twice already ofcourse with my ex but he keeps forgiving me and gave me another chance. I'm not taking advantage of that and I really wish I could love him the way I Love My ex. I wont go move in with my ex cause I wouldnt want my kids to ever see him put hands on me. Im just tired of all this bull s**ttt and want to live happy. what should I do?

The best way 2 cut them off is focus upon the reason u broke up in the first place. Must be a reason, either u got dumped... blame him for taking u for a ride or for trying 2 hold u down and stop moving on. If u dumped him then use this reason as the main character flaw. U can use this in your next conversation where its best to cause a big.... massive row/argument. At this u may get verbally assualted or claimed to have changed but it should force enough rift that you do not feel responsible anymore and can go back on the "prowl for the ONE". Good luck.

me to... im even looking for him in skype, facebook and everywhere i can start to talk to him. at least i am not so strong to call him. sometime he is so flirty with me i dunno what does he mean, i mean he broke up and now he is flirting again.

I say contact a shrink that can help you. It would probably go something like this. What are you holding onto? What are you affaid of in moving forward. JUST STOP> a new interest never hurts.

Hi there Im in the same old boat Im afraid. Just cant seem to be strong and stop the contact. Its an awful situation to be in and I pity you deeply. I know it would do my ex good not to know where I am or what Im thinking but I find it impossible to let go. Just wishing for the day when I wake up not thinking about him so that I can have some peace of mind.

it`s like a living nightmare, and the pain can be worse that a death. but i guess time is a healer, i have just found out that my ex is getting married to someone else, after us just splitting up a 3 months ago....

Hey, i in the same boat too, but i am a guy.we broke up my senior year of high school, and i had a hard time dealing with it until i took psychology in college, since then i have come to the terms that i don't miss her, i miss the thought of her. so instead of trying to fill my free time with random things, i found more friends to hand out with in a non sexual environment, that way the void you are left with will be filled. remember the best tool to mend a broken heart is laughter

Hello - I also am in the same position as you. Exactly the same thing. It helps to know that other people have experienced it as well & that we're having normal feelings and that it is hard and horrible and all the rest of it. I guess we just have to be gentle and accepting with ourselves. Don't beat yourself up about contacting him. What has worked for me so far is distracting myself when I want to contact her - I get busy with something else and put it off. The worst thing I do is lie alone in bed at night or in the morning and just stay there thinking about her. Its not going to be easy but it will get better over time... No doubt about it.

I just want you to know that I am in EXACTLY the same position as you, same amount of time, same ups and downs in the relationship, same some days loving him and some days hating him. I know how you feel and I don't know what to do either :( big hug xxx