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If this behaviour is new as you,ve been married for 14yrs, have yo...

Mon, 03 Mar 2008 15:09:18 GMT

If this behaviour is new as you,ve been married for 14yrs, have you tried talking to him to find out if anything is bothering him? Is he depressed? The children will be distressed if you seperate and they lose their father but their wellbeing should be top of your priorities. Do you still love him and want to save the marriage? If so, you should find out the underlying cause and tell your husband unless he seeks help with his temper, either by attending anger management classes o some other form of help from his gp, it will leave you no alternative but to leave him as the childrens wefare must come first. He is being nice this week because he feels guilty. But how long will that last before the next outburst? If he knows & cares about what he has to lose, he should seek help.

he has been diagnosed as having a personality disorde. prior to th...

Mon, 03 Mar 2008 15:34:38 GMT

he has been diagnosed as having a personality disorde. prior to that he was dianised with bi polar disorder. the behaviour isnt new but was always aimed at me before, now the kids are in the fireing line. i dont want to cause them upheaval, but i dont want to put them at risk. you ask if i love him yes i do but i love the kids more

yes. the children shoud not be exposed to such behaviour. It will...

Fri, 07 Mar 2008 22:58:20 GMT

yes. the children shoud not be exposed to such behaviour. It will warp their minds.

first of all i feel really sorry for you and i can see what your g...

Sat, 08 Mar 2008 10:27:47 GMT

first of all i feel really sorry for you and i can see what your going through and i am so upset . Firstly anger and aggression can turn to even more than hitting a wall he soon could be hitting you ! or even your kids! . second why dont you talk to him do you see him everyday or never why dont you try a marriage councellor if you have tried that tell him how upset you are and how much you love him and that his aggresion is getting in the way with all the things you two love. maybe you can try to take him to the spot of your first date and if you want a second honeymoon even taking him to the movies or doing something you two have never tried . finally have your children been coming in between each other how much alone time do you get? why dont you get some family members to take care of them and you two go to your honeymoon suite! . also has work been coming in between your love life ? why doesnt he take some time off and spend it with you and the kids . i hope he can find some control on his aggression

Pray, Pray, Pray for your husband, and your family and ask God to ...

Tue, 18 Mar 2008 16:05:55 GMT

Pray, Pray, Pray for your husband, and your family and ask God to come in first. Ask your husband to seek counciling with you and your family for these issues. 12 step programs for anger or underlying issues must be met. Getting connected with people at your church or community is a must. Do not start seeing another man either online or in person. Be connected and communicate. Don't give in or up! If he does hit you or a child interveen to get him help. (Police) Pray invite God into your life! He cares big time and loves you all. Scott

So you're going to end your marriage with this man of 16 yrs just ...

Tue, 18 Mar 2008 18:47:21 GMT

So you're going to end your marriage with this man of 16 yrs just because you two had two fights? If you are, then you shouldn't of been married in the first place if you can break up so easily. Marriage is about making it work.

Hello I think you should talk to him about his actions and what it...

Mon, 31 Mar 2008 21:56:03 GMT

Hello I think you should talk to him about his actions and what it meens to your children. I was a battered wife and he started off same your husband. When we first married he was the perfect gent. Last time I am now with my children and we are all much beeter off for it my son had to see a theropist for years.

you need a trial seperation to let him cool down and get himself t...

Wed, 02 Apr 2008 14:08:08 GMT

you need a trial seperation to let him cool down and get himself togther then start from the begining again ie dating ect what ever you do do not stop him seen the kids this can push a man over the edge , a lot of woman just dont understand how much fathers love there children. if you try a trial seperation take time with it dont take him back after a few weeks there is nothing to stop you both still having affection and a sexual relationship but make him understand he is not comming home until you are 100 percent sure the vilonce has stopped

IF YOU HAVE AN ADEQUATE INCOME WITHOUT HIM, LEAVE HIM. hE IS NOT ...

Wed, 02 Apr 2008 18:54:35 GMT

IF YOU HAVE AN ADEQUATE INCOME WITHOUT HIM, LEAVE HIM. hE IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE. lIFE IS TOO SHORT, YOU NEED A BETTER LIFE.

PEPPERMINT make marriage WORK with a violent partner when you have...

Wed, 02 Apr 2008 19:08:43 GMT

PEPPERMINT make marriage WORK with a violent partner when you have children?? What planet you on? The childrens wellbeing should come FIRST not the marriage or to save face. Children arent born violent, it is LEARNED in situations such as this, the wife must also keep her pride and self respect and show her daughters this is NOT how THEY should be treated by their husbands

One you should not be exposing your children to such voilence. Chi...

Wed, 02 Apr 2008 20:55:00 GMT

One you should not be exposing your children to such voilence. Children take in everything,you dont want the future of your kids being horrible. Does he have any mental problems,depression? If so he needs to get help. If he doesnt have any mental problems or depression then you need to take your children and leave,and dont turn back. the next thing he might do is go crazy and Hit you or the kids.

in answer to some of your replies. it is not the 1st time, but be...

Thu, 03 Apr 2008 14:22:15 GMT

in answer to some of your replies. it is not the 1st time, but before his anger was directed at me. 10 years ago he was diagnosed with depression and alcholism, 5 years ago the diagnoses changed to Bi Polar disorder. 3 months ago the diagnoses changed to emotionally unstable personality disorder. He is now on anti psycotic drugs. I did love him, but i dont think i do any more. the kids love him (and hate him too). I know i have to leave for the kids sake, also mine) at the moment i have no social life as i cannot leave him with the kids for more than a few minutes.

y dun u sit n talk to him abt ths??make him understand wht he is d...

Sat, 26 Apr 2008 21:34:16 GMT

y dun u sit n talk to him abt ths??make him understand wht he is doin...n tell him in a nice way tht no point being like ths...as d kids needs both of u....

if you read this , then this is a real cry for help. i cannt seem ...

Mon, 28 Apr 2008 17:05:58 GMT

if you read this , then this is a real cry for help. i cannt seem to please my wife. she hates sex and she sez sex is just a a burden , she hates it and it doesnt do anything for her. i try to be superman and make love to her all night. last night night she suggested a trial seperation for the first time evr.wow that throw me back! weve been together ten years and and i never expectied that. the truth is i dony think i do anything for her and then she admittinted i t.i dont .but before ,i did and she was proper horney. am i avin my sellf on , or is she avin a affair?

People or couples should i say either grow together or grow apart,...

Mon, 28 Apr 2008 23:15:51 GMT

People or couples should i say either grow together or grow apart, maybe thats whats happened to you. It might not mean she has someone else but she may not fancy you anymore or just wants a sexless relationship. Its up to you to either acept that if you,ve already talked, or to move on with someone else that can make you happy. Love alone dosent make you happy as you know.

You should start by having a trial seperation say 6mths and tell h...

Mon, 28 Apr 2008 23:28:15 GMT

You should start by having a trial seperation say 6mths and tell him you both need space to see how you feel and that during that time that he must seek help and only see the children when supervised by another adult, maybe a family member or somebody from a family centre for their safety. In this time you either decide if you are better off without him or that you want to try again. 2 unhappy parents make unhappy kids, so its far better to be apart and happier for their sakes and to show them that you shouldnt put up with 2nd best so they can learn that for their own relationships in the future.

I THINK YOU NEED THE COURAGE TO MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. I BELIEVE ...

Tue, 29 Apr 2008 21:19:50 GMT

I THINK YOU NEED THE COURAGE TO MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. I BELIEVE YOU KNOW THIS BUT NEED SOMEONE TO CONVINCE YOU YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE AND YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN SHOULD BE AS HAPPY AS YOU CAN. I AM BEN AND WISH YOU WELL.