Hi Southchic, just wondered how you are getting on now!

Pollita; I have to say that i actually feel sorry for you.From your other posts, i notice that you are only 15 years old. You should be thinking about actually having a LIFE. If you want a baby so young, you must be quite insecure in yourself. How would you live? Money? Kids are VERY demanding and very expensive. You could have a much better relationship with your boyfreind if you DONT have a baby so young. It will put pressure on him to be bringing home the money, you wont be free to go out or enjoy yourself anymore, you will have to spend all your time with the baby. Rather than keeping your boyfriend, this makes many run away!

Well i think that a baby is a gift from god and if you really want him and you are really sure of your relationship then you should go for it...Me i really want one ,my boyfriend does too but im to small ad he can go to jail for that so we are planning to wait a bit until i turn 17 then were going to live together and have our babies...well hoped that i helped.

I cannot agree that abortion is wrong,sorry. There is a need for it. Adopted children do NOT live a fairytale life no matter how much love they recieve from their adoptive parents. For many babies adopted, they grow to be very sad individuals who are damaged by feeling rejected, abandoned and unloved. They travel far and wide in search of their birth mothers. Blood is thicker than water. This affects many for most of their lives, unable to form healthy relationships of their own afraid of being abandoned again, many issues. Because they are made to feel guilty due to people with views such as yours, children are having children, people who have been raped, people in poverty or simply a bay that is unable to be loved or cared for properly is bought into the world to suffer. History then repeats as these kids turn into adults with severe problems who dont know HOW to love as they,ve not been shown it. Once the pregnancy is visible everyone comments, oh great, etc, etc and you can feel it inside you. You develop an attachment or feel unable to give it away as you will be frowned upon. For these reasons and many more, i cant agree with you. There are enough people in this world with problems, mainly due to parenting or backgrounds, the mental health systems and jails are full of them, with adding to it.

sarky: no offense taken. This critism was much expected against me. But at the end of the day u and i both know that abortion is wrong.....now i understand that bringing an unwanted child into the world can be detrimental but why wouldnt the mom just put the baby up for adoption. Someone will love it (because obviously the mom doesnt) but even that is better than termination. I mean come on the baby didnt even get a chance to live and his VERY OWN MOTHER KILLED HIM......thats wrong. i dont care what any one says..abortion is wrong.

Hillari: I would think that YOU should be ASHAMED of YOURSELF for "the advice" you have given here! This girl would be feeling enough grief already without someone irresponsible giving "advice" such as that. Abortions happen, they always will and for most that is the right choice at that time. Its far more of a "crime" to bring an unwanted child into this world. To bring a baby into the world that you do not want or are unable to care for or love for whatever reason just because you would make others who are against abortion happy, is wrong. They are not the ones who would be left to raise it.

abortion is very wrong. You should feel bad, you killed your first born child and thats soooo sad. you should be ashamed of yourself. If u do decide to get pregnant again dont have an abortion

I would like to add that you made a good choice by the answer you gave to my question What age did you first have sex. Please think carefully about this too as a baby does not always change your life for the better. You are lucky in that you have age on your side, the world is your oyster at the moment and you can go and SEE the world or do anything you desire. There IS more to life than changing nappies believe me!! Good luck!

First of all it is perfectly natural that you should be feeling sad after having an abortion. You wont forget it but you will feel better after a time. You must remember nobody chooses to terminate their pregnancy without thinking it through carefully first. You made that choice because it was the right choice at that time. You are grieving now and thats ok. BUT remember another baby is NOT the one you lost and will not make you feel better as you cant replace the first one. You have now found work but you havent been working long so still cant have too much money. Bringing up a child is very costly not to mention taking away your freedom. It can also destroy the relationship you have rather than seal it as more pressure will be on him to provide and he will have to share you with the baby. Of course the most sensible mature decision you could make would be to go to uni, live life a little then you will also be able to be sure that you will have enough money comming in to give your child the best you can. As you are 18 you know that you always wanted something, that something costs. Have you discussed this fully with yr boyfriend? Would you be left holding the baby while he,s off out enjoying himself as you couldnt both go out anymore. While you are thinking of what might have been think of him too as he might be feeling the same grief as it was his baby too. Try to enjoy being together and help each other through this difficult period as if you pressure him into trying again and its not right for you both, you may end up as a single parent and that wouldnt be fair on the baby either. You may think in the future that YOU DID make the right decision.