Addiction To Love
Addiction To Love
Marc Kern (Addiction Expert, Director of Addiction Alternatives) gives expert video advice on: What does a typical relationship with a love addict look like? and more...
What is "love addiction"?
Love addiction is about the extreme of it. It is not really about love. It's about, again, feeling good and getting that feeling through an obsessive-compulsive way. It is really not about what we would typically understand as love and affection and warmth and cuddling and things like that. It is generally not seen as a healthy preoccupation with another individual. It's seen as sort of a mechanical, almost using, of the other to get a particular emotional experience inside.
What does a typical relationship with a love addict look like?
Love addiction, sex addiction, will look like to the oustider as someone who's preoccupied with fi--for example, finding women, finding relationships, having sexual intercourse. Constantly going on the Internet looking for partners, looking for sexual, sort of, opportunities. Rather than a natural part of one's life but, but, but rather a, a sort of a consuming, organizing, central principal and everything else comes second. This is priority one and everything comes second. It'll manifest itself in, what do they do with their leisure time? What do they do after work? What do they talk about during work? It's really more about this preoccupation than anything else.
What causes love addiction?
Generally speaking, bad experiences, or sometimes quite evil experiences, often turn into love addiction or sex addiction. It's more about what's privately going on in the child, generally speaking, when the, whether it manifests itself into sex or love. Generally speaking, women who've grown up with a battering father often get into battering relationships, sort of like an addiction. Or sex becomes a preoccupation because maybe they observed, maybe there was a bad experience with trust, and the only thing that was sort of reassuring and comforting was more the sexual intercourse. It's a very difficult thing to ferret out, all the forces that were imprinted in a child's brain when generally the foundation of these kinds of addictions manifest dozens of years later.