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What do I do if I tell my date to call me, but don't really want a second date?

Advice For Women After The First Date

Michele Hubatsek (Dating Coach) gives expert video advice on: Is it OK to I call a man if I'm interested in a second date?; Is it OK to email or text a man after a first date?; What if my date just wants to be friends? and more...

What do I do if I tell my date to call me, but don't really want a second date?

It is really common at the end of a first date for someone to say, "Call me" or "I'll see you again soon." If that's not really how you feel, try not to say it. If you do say it, then later on you may have to say, "I've thought about it and I just don't think it's going to work out." I know this isn't easy to do and honestly I answer this question probably every single day. But honesty is the best policy and a guy will respect you when you say, "I don't think this was a good match but I really had a great time. Best of luck to you."

Is it OK to I call a man if I'm interested in a second date?

I suggest to most of my clients that they actually do call after the date, especially if he paid for it, to say, "Thank you, I had a good time and I really appreciate it." If your relationship started online and you were e-mailing, you could send him a quick note if you don't want to initiate a conversation, just saying thank you. I think it's the polite thing to do, then the ball's in his court.

Is it OK to email or text a man after a first date?

Actually, e-mail and texting can be really useful after a first date. First, if you don't want to make the next phone call after the date, you can just send him a text or an e-mail that says you had a great time and look forward to seeing him again. If you're not interested, it might be a way to stop the communication by saying, "I had a great time and best of luck on your search."

What if I just want to be friends with a man after a date?

If you're working with a matchmaker, there's a good chance that you could establish a friendship with someone you've met even if there's not a romantic interest. So, I'd be honest. Let them know where you're at - that you really, really enjoy their company, you just don't have that romantic spark. Some men will be OK with this and some won't. But put it out there if friendship is something you're interested in after the first date.

What if my date just wants to be friends?

You need to be honest with yourself. Is it really okay for you to just be friends with him or are you trying to be friends in hopes that something else will come out of it? If you have that expectation then don't accept the invitation to be a friend after a first date. You're leading yourself down a road of disappointment, most likely. If you're ok and you want this person in your life, either way, then you can go ahead and be friends.