Advice For Women: Preparing For A First Date
How do I prepare for a first date?
Clothes are a very important part of a first date. Firstly, you need to know where you're going. Make sure you have an idea. It's so easy today: you can get on the internet and look it up in order to get a good idea. On some of the websites, they will even have suggested dress, so you know what to expect when you go there and you can dress appropriately. Secondly, once you know where you are going on the first date, if you don't have an outfit you feel fantastic in, go out and get about three. Make sure you have a solid wardrobe of things that make you feel good: first date favorites that you know you can put on, even at the last minute, and feel great about yourself. So, you know what you want to wear. The next important thing is that you get a good night's sleep before the first date. This is like an interview. I don't want to say that to scare you, but because I take the attitude that in an interview you're going to see if this is something you want. It's about you and what you want. So get a good night's sleep. Feel good about yourself. Then go and see if this guy's good enough for you.
Should I tell anyone where I am going on a first date?
Perhaps the most important thing in preparing for a first date is your safety. Make sure somebody knows where you're going and who you're going with on this date. Leave it with at least one person so that, if something should happen, they know where to find you.
Where is the best place to go on a first date?
Every day I get asked: where is the best place to go on a first date? The most important thing is to go some where that you can hear each other, that you can actually talk. It's not a good idea to go to a bowling alley, for example, or a loud club for a first date. You can't hear what the other person is saying. The other thing that's really important is how you met this person in the first place. If it's through a matchmaker, like myself, you should go somewhere, have a quiet dinner, and be able to talk for a long period of time. If it's somebody you don't know very well, meet for a cup of coffee, someplace in the open, someplace safe, but somewhere that you can have a chat and get to know each other a little bit.
Are there any bad places to go on a first date?
There are definitely places that are not good for a first date. For example: loud bars, clubs, bowling alleys, or anywhere where there is a lot of noise and you can't hear each other. That's a big no-no.
How should I dress on a first date?
What you wear on a first date has to do first with your personality and what you feel comfortable in. It also depends on where you're going for the first date. Look it up in order to make sure you have an idea of what you'll feel comfortable in there. I wouldn't recommend a wedding dress as the first date unless you want to ensure that you don't get a second date.
Should I let a man pick me up on a first date, or should I arrange to meet him?
It's best on a first date to meet your date somewhere. Unless he's somebody you know through a close personal friend and you really feel comfortable, I think it's best to meet him somewhere and then get out if he's scary.
If a man wants to reschedule our date, does it mean he's not interested?
If a man wants to reschedule a date, it doesn't necessarily mean that he's not that into you. In our crazy lives, anything could have happened, and what could have changed between asking you out and when he's re-scheduling? Don't over-think things.
How do I go about rescheduling a date?
If you need to reschedule a date, just be honest. Tell him what came up and what you need to do. It's much harder to remember a lie than to remember the truth and it could come through. So just make sure he knows you're really excited about meeting him and then change the date.
Should I try to learn about a man I'm going to date from other sources?
If you're going out on a first date with a man and you want to know a little bit about him, should you snoop around and try to find out or not? It depends. If you are being introduced through a matchmaker like myself, then trust the matchmaker. Don't Google. There might be something else. I had a client who looked someone else up and got the wrong name and called me and was so angry that this man was engaged to be married. She had the wrong person and then refused to go out on the date. If you're with a matchmaker, trust that person. Just go on what you already know; go out on the date and have some fun. If it's someone you've met online, it might be a good idea to look around. Take everything with a grain of salt though. You never know what's happened in people's lives. But it's alright to check them out before the date.
Should I bring condoms on a first date?
Take a lesson from the boy scouts: Be prepared. That's it. If there's any chance that you're going to be having sex on a first date, protect yourself. Make sure you have a condom. Most women, we have a purse with us. It's not that hard to have something discreet hidden in the bottom of your purse. Be careful, take care of yourself and be prepared.
