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Dr. Lillian Glass
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  • How can I get the courage to ask someone out?
  • Should I utilize a professional matchmaker?
  • Should I try a "pick-up line"?
  • What are some things to keep in mind when asking someone out on a date in person?
  • How do I ask someone out over the phone or email?
  • What are some polite ways to turn down a request for a date?
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Asking Someone Out

How can I get the courage to ask someone out?

You can get the courage to ask somebody out on a date by, first of all, lightening up. Don't look at asking someone out as a life or death situation. You'll have more success if you try than if you don't try, so that's very important to do. Also, you could just be interested in the person you want to ask on a date. Ask them a question: Would you like to go out with me? Don't say, "I'd like to take you out." If you ask them a question it gives them an option, and it gives them an easy way out in case they don't want to be go out on a date with you.

Should I utilize a professional matchmaker?

With professional matchmaking services, for the most part it is discovered that these professional matchmakers are just out take your money. They'll match you with whoever comes through the door. The professional matchmakers don't really take the time to get to know you or to get to know the other person they match you up with. They may claim they're giving you a battery of tests and they're giving the other person a battery of tests, but that's nonsense. The bottom line is, they're going to match you with who they have available, and it's not really in your best interest to go to a professional matchmaking service.

Should I try a "pick-up line"?

If you're approaching somebody that you're interested in romantically, please do yourself a favor and avoid all pick-up lines. Pick-up lines don't work. Instead, be genuine, smile, be open, and be real.

What are some things to keep in mind when asking someone out on a date in person?

When you're asking someone out on a date in person, don't show nervousness. Breathe. Take a breath in, hold it, and let it out. Show them that you're cool about it, that you're not wondering, "Oh, no! Are they going to reject me?", so you're not thinking negatively. You also want to have enthusiasm in your voice; you want to seem excited to see that person, and excited about the possibility that they'll go out with you. You also want to have good hygiene. You want to look good, you want to be dressed appropriately, and you want to smell good too, because sometimes if you wear the right cologne, you have the right scent and people will be really attracted to you.

How do I ask someone out over the phone or email?

If you want to ask a person out over the phone, you need to have enthusiasm in your voice. Ask them a little bit about themselves at the beginning of the phone call: "What are you doing?" "What's happening?" "What's going on?" It lightens the phone call up. Then say: "How would you feel about going on a date with me?" "How would you feel about going to the movies?" "How would you feel about having dinner?" Again, you ask questions and wait for their response.

What are some polite ways to turn down a request for a date?

If somebody is asking you for a date, and you don't want to go out with that person, be polite. Know that there's another human being that has taken the opportunity to communicate with you, and if you don't want to go out with them, that's your prerogative. Be kind; say, "Oh I so appreciate you asking me out, but I'm not available." That's all you have to say.

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1 out of 1 person found this comment helpful Anonymous  (65 days ago)

its just so confusing, stick wid my had....;)

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1 out of 1 person found this comment helpful Anonymous  (66 days ago)

good one

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1 out of 1 person found this comment helpful Anonymous  (74 days ago)

pick up lines do work, but not in the way that most guys use them. They are a great ice-breaker, but thats all. Like "Thats a nice shirt, can I talk you out of it?", its mean to be funny, to break the ice, to show that you arent all seriousness. But dont use them and expect the woman to jump at you pulling off her clothes because you know a pick-up line. Want the best pick-up line in the world? It's: "Hi, my name is ........"

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3 out of 3 people found this comment helpful Anonymous  (102 days ago)

CONFIDENCE! CONFIDENCE! CONFIDENCE! thats mainly all you need. and s/he should be a little interested in you for it to work!

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Anonymous  (150 days ago)

dating someone else!!

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2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful Anonymous  (243 days ago)

do i even say im not available if i am?

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4 out of 4 people found this comment helpful angela087  (283 days ago)

every once in a while a pickline will work.. it just depends on the person, if someone used one on me.. depending on how they said it , etc it might actually work on me. lol but this gives pretty good advice, a lot of it makes sense if you think about it.

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