Dating Terms For Men
What is a 'wingman' and should I use one?
A wingman is when a guy brings one of his buddies out to a bar with him, to help pick up women. Guys like to go in teams because they feel like that's going to improve their chances in picking up women. Generally, in my experience, it's actually not a help to have a wingman right away. I think it's best if one guy goes up to a group first, of maybe three or four women, and chats with them. He gets a conversation going, maintains their interest, and then the wing man or the friend will come in later, and help pair off, so it won't be as hard for the guy to keep a conversation going with three women. His friend will come in and help him out. When two guys come in at the same time, a lot of times women feel overwhelmed by that, so I don't think it's as effective for the two guys to go in together. Have one man go in, and the wingman fly in later, so to speak.
What does 'scoring digits' mean in the dating world?
Scoring digits usually happens in a bar setting or a party or anywhere actually; it's when you approach a woman and you're able to get her phone number from her. Obviously digits are her number. Scoring digits is when you actually obtain a phone number from a woman that you're interested in perhaps dating.
What is 'the walk of shame' in the dating world?
The Walk of Shame is if you have sex with a woman on a first date. When she's leaving your apartment the next morning, she has to walk from your apartment to her car, and then from her car to her apartment. People see that she's wearing the same clothes she had on last night, and her hair is all messed up. That's the Walk of Shame. If you wind up having sex with a woman on a first date, you should be ashamed if you make that girl do the Walk of Shame alone. Walk next to her. Walk her back to her car. Be the gentleman. You guys had a nice evening together, take that walk together, hand in hand. Be proud.
What is meant by 'diving on a grenade' in the dating world?
Diving on a grenade is not really the most politically correct term, but what it means is when there are two guys and they're talking to two women. One of the guys will actually do the talking to the less attractive of the two. If there's one woman that's very pretty and one that's less attractive, diving on the grenade is the guy that dives on the less attractive woman.
What is a 'paperback' in the dating world?
A paperback is a type of woman whose life is an open book. She literally tells you everything about herself within the first ten minutes of meeting her. Paperbacks are a little bit nutty, a little bit crazy. These women are not the best women to get into a relationship with. They like to reveal every last detail about themselves within the first 20 minutes of meeting them. "I was in a cult, I'm still in love with my high school Trig teacher, I like to smear peanut butter on my toes," - that sort of thing. Way too much information. However, if you are interested in a one night stand, this is your best bet, because these women are the most open to instant gratification.
What is a 'Toni Basil' in the dating world?
Toni Basils are women who have the same MO, which is, they really have intimacy issues. When you go on a really successful date with them, they're scared and they run, and they really don't know how to deal with a relationship. Even though you had an incredible date with them, they can't go any further than that. They're scared so they don't call you back or they won't respond to any of your messages, or your stalking.
What is the 'principal of least interest' in the dating world?
The principle of least interest is actually an economic theory. It means when people are bartering over something, the party that is least interested in obtaining that goal has the power, they can walk away from a deal and not worry about it. The reason why that is important is because in a dating situation, the person that seems least interested is always going to have the upper hand, which is why when a guy meets a girl or a girl meets a guy, the person who plays harder to get is usually the one who is more sought after. This is why it is very important as a man to not come across as too anxious or too available.
What is the 'fake reach' in the dating world?
The fake reach is when, at the end of a date, if you take a woman out to dinner, she makes a gesture towards her purse to pay for part of her meal, or the entire meal. The reason why I call it a fake reach is because women - ninety nine percent of the time, want the man to pay for the meal. It's important for the man to see that reach because otherwise the woman might come across as being a gold-digger. When a woman reaches to her purse the first time, she's really making a gesture to be polite about paying for half. Normally the gentleman will say, "That's okay I'll pay the check." When that happens, usually the woman will say, "Thank you very much," and at that point you'll know that you're doing pretty well on the date; if the woman insists or she goes back for another reach, which is the double fake reach, then you're really in trouble, because that's a clear sign that this woman is giving you that she's not interested in you. What I mean by that is: a woman basically feels that if the man pays for the meal, there's some sort of entitlement, whether it be a good night hug or goodnight kiss, or sex, depending on the situation. There's always that sense of, "Okay, if I let this guy pay for this meal, he's going to expect something in return." So if a woman insists on paying for half of the meal, it is a clear sign that she does not want to be with you, she just does not want to kiss you, she doesn't want anything further than this date.
What is a 'PD' in the dating world?
A PD is an acronym for put down, and what that is, is when you approach a beautiful woman, you don't want to tell her that she is beautiful because she hears it all the time. What you need to do, for two reasons, is make her feel insecure, and you also need to show that your not afraid to approach her. "That's an intense wig you have on." "I'm not wearing a wig. "Do you dye your hair?" "No. This is my real color." "Really?" A lot of beautiful women are not approached by men, especially men who are average looking such as myself, because they feel intimidated by a beautiful woman. Really they are there for the same reason you: they want to meet people, so when you give a woman a put down, what that does is two things. A PD makes that woman feel slightly insecure about herself, and at the same time it shows that you are confident enough to approach her. A good example of a PD is to tell her, "You have something in your teeth" or, "Wow, you have really large feet." Because these things aren't telling her something like she is really ugly, which is just not true, but making her feel slightly insecure about herself. "What made you think that I was wearing a wig?" "It just stands out. Sure your not lying to me?" PULL! The key to a good PD is to say something to the woman that is a subtle truth about them but not a flat out insult - to say that she has slightly large feet, or to say that she has something in her teeth. These things aren't terrible things to say to a woman, but it is enough to put her on equal footing with you.
What is a 'Tom Brady' in the dating world and how do I cope with one?
Sometimes in a social situation there'll be a beautiful girl who will be with her friends and those women will literally act as protection from men who are trying to hit on their very good looking friend. Tom Brady, who is quarter-back for the New England Patriots, has his offensive line that protects him. These women serve as a buffer between any man who's trying to come and approach their friend. In order to score some digits from the Tom Brady, you're actually going to have to combine two different tactics. You're going to need to deal with the women that are around her or her friends that are blocking you from talking to her, and the simplest way to do this again is to bring them into the conversation. Don't make them feel like outcasts; make it a discussion with the group, make them laugh and make them feel comfortable with you. They might actually even wind up introducing you to their friend. That doesn't usually happen but it could. Once that happens, the Tom Brady is a beautiful women, so you're going to need to use the PD. What you can be doing is compliment her friends and using a slight put-down on her and the whole playing field is gonna be neutralized, and you're going to be able to get her number.
What is meant by 'dropping the b-bomb' in the dating world?
Dropping the B-Bomb is when a girl mentions to you that she has a boyfriend. It's crucial when she actually tells you she has a boyfriend, because it means all the difference in the world. If you first approach a woman, and she tells you within the first twenty seconds that she has a boyfriend, she A) is not interested in you because she really has a boyfriend, or B) she's just not interested in you. Either way, she's giving you a distinct message: Please leave me alone. If she tells you that she has a boyfriend 30 minutes into your conversation, that generally means that she does have a boyfriend, but she might be on the fence with him, and she's obviously engaged in conversation with you for half an hour already. She wants you to know that she does have a boyfriend but she's probably interested in getting to know you better, and perhaps leaving him for you.
What is the 'fake number trick' in the dating world?
When you're getting a girl's phone number, I bet this thought crosses your mind: "Is she giving me her real number?" Use that to your advantage. I actually use that as a joke, and I'll say, "Look, please give me a fake number if you don't want to call me. Give me a fake number so when I call you up, I'll know that you didn't want to go out with me, because if I do call your number, I'm going to expect you to go out with me." Nine times out of ten the girl will smile and laugh, she'll give you the number, and then she'll look you in the eye and say, "This is my real number." So it serves two purposes: One, it's light and funny; two, it's making you more confident that she's giving you her real number.
