Dating Younger Men: The Price

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Dating Younger Men: The Price

Lucia . (Author, "Lucia's Lessons of Love") gives expert video advice on: What are the drawbacks to dating younger men?; Is there a double standard for men and women when it comes to dating younger?; Is dating younger men universally accepted? and more...

What are the drawbacks to dating younger men?

The drawbacks to dating younger men would be if they are immature. That would be the problem within the relationship. Generally, with these types of relationships, it's the people outside of it that have the problem that cause problems. It can be his mother, the woman's ex-husband, her children, her mother. They don't agree with it but in the end it's about the two people who are in the relationship and if they want to make it work they can.

Is there a double standard for men and women when it comes to dating younger?

There is absolutely a double standard when dating younger men because older men have done it forever, dating younger women, and it's accepted and they are thought of as studs, whereas if a young man dates an older women, the older woman is thought to be foolish, and that she is going to be used and taken advantage of, and then discarded, and that's just not true.

Is dating younger men universally accepted?

It is becoming more and more accepted to date younger men if you are an older woman in Canada, The U.S., and Europe. And eventually, I am sure the other countries will also follow suit, but they will be a lot slower.

What are the stereotypes assoicated with dating younger men?

The stereotypes associated with dating younger men is that they're just in it for the sex or that they just want the woman for her money. There are, of course, some younger men who are in it just for the sex or for the money, but not all of them.

Is dating younger men socially acceptable?

Dating younger men is slowly becoming more socially acceptable, but it's still not in the mainstream. Tribal thinking still exists, it's still a patriarical society, but eventually, 15, 20 years from now it won't be a big deal. I believe that it's not socially acceptable because it's just not in the status quo. It's always been older men with younger women, and whenever there's a change sociologically it always takes time, not everyone accepts it right away but eventually it will be more accepted.

Who is the most critical of women who date younger men?

Well, older men, of course, are critical of women dating younger men because that's always been their territory. They're always the ones dating young women. Now they're, well, wait a minute, how come you get to do that now? They're not very happy about it, especially if they're married. They may feel threatened if they see that their wife's friends are divorced and dating younger men. They start to think well, maybe she's going to get rid of me, too, and get a younger guy. And then younger women are not very happy about it because they feel that the older women are taking their men, so to speak. But they should actually look at it as a positive, in a sense, in that if they end up being single or divorced when they're in their late 30s or early 40s they'll actually have more men to choose from.