Divorce: The Decision

My partner was unfaithful - should I get a divorce?

You need to ask yourself whether you can forgive her or him, if not now, then perhaps in the future, and also whether you will be able to trust them again. If you need some help with this, then a relationship counselor or coach might be able to help you.

I was unfaithful - should I get a divorce?

When you take responsibility for being unfaithful, you need some help with that, possibly in the form of coaching or counseling. What does your partner say about it? Can he or she forgive you for it? Will they be able to trust you again? These are all questions you need to consider

We have nothing to say to each other - should I get a divorce?

How do you feel about the fact that you haven't got anything to say to each other? Does it make you feel lonely, sad? Some people are okay with having nothing to say to each other, some couples live perfectly happily without actually having very much to say to each other. They can lead separate lives and perhaps talk through their friends and their children. Then ask yourself how you feel about having nothing to say to each other and also how you partner feels.

We don't have sex anymore - should we get a divorce?

How do you feel about the fact that you don't have sex anymore? Some couples live for many years together, perfectly happily, without having any intimacy or sex. Perhaps you should ask yourself whether there is a need for sex there that needs to be fulfilled, or whether you can live perfectly happily without having sex.

We argue constantly - should I get a divorce?

What are you arguing over? Is it big things or little things? Is it to score points, or to make yourself feel better? Perhaps you should ask yourself what it is you're arguing over, and also whether it's actually moving you forward by arguing. Perhaps you should ask yourself, before you start arguing, whether it's going to be a forward step or a backward step to continue the argument, and maybe withdraw if the argument is not going to get you anywhere.

How many last chances should I give my marriage?

You should give the marriage every last chance, especially if you have children. However, if the point has come when you've tried everything, you're emotionally exhausted and you feel you that can't go any further with it, then perhaps the time has come for a different approach, and a divorce and the changes that will bring might be just what you need.