Getting A Date With A Guy
Getting A Date With A Guy
David Wygant (Dating Coach) gives expert video advice on: What attracts a guy to a woman?; Do men want a 'porn star' or a 'girl next door'?; How do I know if he's asking me out on a date or wanting to hang out as just friends? and more...
What attracts a guy to a woman?
Men are like dogs, they're Scooby Doo on steroids. They need to see a visual thing. If a guy sees a woman he has to look at her front, back and center. He looks at her four or five times because when he doesn't talk to her he needs to tell his other littermates, the other Scooby Doo's that he's friends with, what exactly she looked like. But what women don't realize is the power of men being so visual, and it doesn't mean that, when you go out in a pair of sweatpants that doesn't mean the guy is not going to be attracted to you. If a guy looks at you and you're a woman and you don't acknowledge it with a smile you're basically an idiot, you're basically blew the easiest opportunity in the entire world because men, being like dogs, need the cookie crumbs to go to the cookie. So you're basically a cookie, so you need to have the crumbs, the crumbs are the smile, the hello, whatever it is. We are so visual we will just move directly towards what we like.
Do men want a 'porn star' or a 'girl next door'?
Here's something that women need to realize okay is that some men want the porn star some want the girl next door. Some men want the girl with the big butt, some men want the girl that's tall, some men want the girl that's skinny. Every single guy has different tastes. One of the best exercises I tell women all the time, look at your body type, look at who you are, go out to a Wal-Mart, go out to a Target, go out to a Whole Foods on a Saturday afternoon and take a look at women just like you and see what type of man they're with. You'll see you have a huge amount of men that are attracted to you. So you should never knock your body type because all men want different things. I'm attracted to them at 5'6" and under, very petite, very much in shape because I love to work out. My buddy is 6"2" and about 200 lbs, loves women 150 plus, he hates skinny women, he thinks he can break them in half, he calls them dental floss, he doesn't like them at all. So every guy is attracted to something different so you need to embrace your body style and be comfortable with it.
Should a girl ask a guy out?
Absolutely. If you're standing there in line at the supermarket, and you find this guy unbelievably hot; you know what, the problem with most men is they don't pick up all the visual clues. A lot of the time, they can't believe they're actually talking to them, that it's actually happening. So you can look at them and say, "You know what, I've got to run and go to work, and it was great talking to you. Here's my card. Give me a call." You could absolutely say that. And a lot of women right now are watching this, going "Oh my God, the guy's going to think I want to sleep with him right away." We don't think that. What we do is we go back to our friends, and what we say is, "You wouldn't believe it, man. I was in line today, and I picked up this woman, and she handed me her card." He's going to think he did all the magic work, but yet you did all the magic work. It's all psychological with men; we're easy to fool and trick.
Should I give him my number or my e-mail address?
You always give your phone number. Here's the problem with emails. What happens with email, I send somebody an email on Monday this week, I resend them an email today, and by the time they get back to me they say, "I never got the email." Email's not 100 percent. At all. At all. Give him your phone number, give him your cell phone number. That way there's two ways he can reach you -- he can either text you or he can call you up. Phone number. Also I think people nowadays hide behind emails, it's like the safe way out. Give him a phone call, because also the fact is if you get on the phone with them, you can see what their personality is like a little bit more. You can have what I call a little mini phone date. It's very important to hear their voice a second time to see if there's chemistry the second time.