Getting Engaged To A Guy
How do I tell my guy I want to get married?
The marriage discussion is something that really should be talked about early on in the relationship. I would say talking about marriage and your desire to get married two years down the line and you find out he never had any intention of marrying you or anybody else is not a good thing. So I think if in the beginning of getting to know each other and dating you determine that marriage is ultimately a goal for both of you. I think get to know each other for several months, see if there's compatibility there, and if you feel that this is someone that you want to marry, I think it's perfectly okay to talk about going in that direction and see how he feels. Balance it, and talk about where the other person is in relation to progress of the relationship.
Why does marriage scare men?
The word 'marriage' does not scare so many men. I think that marriage and family responsibility on day one of a date would terrify anyone. But a lot of times what marriage symbolizes, especially to men, is a lot of responsibility and really being the man of the household, especially if he comes from a traditional home. So you have to make sure that marriage is in his relationship goal, game plan. And ultimately if he is someone who wants to get married and you're progressing the relationship in that direction, I don't think he's going to say, "My god, marriage is terrifying and a gabolt, lets not talk about it", because it's something that you've alread agreed on that's a priority for the both of you. May there be issues that come up when talking about marriage and some fears? Yeah, that's very possible because I think for each individual marriage means something that's very about your history and it's very symbolic about your own family, and I think those things can be discussed and explored and given patience and space for people to have some fear and issues along with that, but I don't think it's a male/female thing, and I don't think it's necessarily something to be avoided in discussion about marriage, because it really does transition the relationship from the sort of festive dating experience to a direction towards family and issues doe come up when that happens.
When a guy says he never wants to get married, does he really mean it?
The problem with sort of women and their disappointment in relationships often comes when a man tells her something and she doesn't listen, and she thinks she can change him. So the man is saying, "I never want to get married, " and your primary goal is to get married, you're not going to be successful with this man, you cannot change a man, and if you try and change a man, you're both going to be unhappy. So if someone says "I never want to get married" and that's your primary goal, you've got to move on and you've got to take him at his word.
