Getting Married To A Guy
Why doesn't he care about the wedding?
Men don't care about weddings because it's boring. Because guys don't care. Because you know what? Guys never dreamt about weddings. Guys never dreamt about wedding dresses. We never dreamt about our friends all in the same color tuxedo. Guys never dreamt about this. We didn't get groom magazines as a kid. We really don't care. As far as men are concerned we can just have one giant party dress and a pair of jeans. We'd be happy as can be. He's doing the wedding for you. We're not doing it for ourselves, it's all about you. And the quicker you learn that, the easier the wedding is going to be.
What if I don't like my husband's family?
I don't like me, I didn't like my own family growing up, so what if you don't like the guy's family? Then you know what, you need to talk to him and tell him. You're not comfortable with his mom. His mom interrogates you. You don't really get along with the dad. So hopefully, he'll be supportive enough so when you go visit the family, he'll make the trip as easy as possible for you and also avoid some of the situations and not put you in some of the situations. Meaning, if the parents are coming in for dinner that night, maybe you don't need to go to dinner that night with them. Maybe you can just go and have dinner with your friends and he can make an excuse for you.
Why does my husband always have to be in charge?
The husband does not always have to be in charge. They have to be in charge of certain things. Which means we are in charge of the guy things, of putting the gas grill together. Maybe we are in charge of the trips to the vacations. Maybe that is our thing. We are planners. But when it comes down to home decor, maybe we do not care about that. If you think about this in a relationship, you are in charge of some things. He is in charge of some things. That is what makes a good relationship. If this guy is in charge of everything and you are not in charge of anything, you are basically a puppet being manipulated by the strings and you need to have a relationship that is far more equal. So you need to really sit down and talk with your husband and figure out how to the get the relationship on even grounds.
