Going On A Date With A Guy

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Going On A Date With A Guy

Lisa Clampitt (Matchmaker) gives expert video advice on: What does a guy expect on the first date?; What do guys expect on the second and third date?; What are good first date topics? and more...

What does a guy expect on the first date?

I think that men expect on a first day, to have a good time, to get to know the woman, to see what type of personality is she. Is she fun? Is she enjoyable to be around? Is she someone that you want to get to know more? And I think, ultimately, on the physical nature, if there is a lot of chemistry going on I think it's okay to kiss on the first date but I don't think there's huge expectations of going in one direction or another, just getting to know each other.

What are good first date topics?

I'll tell you what should happen on a first date is light topics, something that's very fun, common interests, what you did on vacation, what movies you like, different aspects of what you do on the weekend, where you've traveled to. What you should not talk about is bad break-ups, past relationships, things like religion and politics I think add to a lot of complications and then ultimately getting a sense of the fun nature of someone and is that someone you want to get to know better and leave the more serious topics for date three, four and five.

What topics are off limits on a date?

I think that the key things that you do not want to be talking about on the first few dates are negative experiences of past relationships, topics of children, indepth discussions about difficulties at work, financial problems, detailed religious beliefs, political beliefs, I think also start getting a little bit more complicated. A lot of negative, heavy topics should be avoided. Again, the first few dates are about having fun and enjoying exploring each other, learning about each other, and really seeing if you can make that a comfortable enough situation to decide whether this is someone you want to get to know better.

Should I ever pay on a date, or should the guy pay?

Who pays is a very, very big topic these days, and I think, ultimately, the tradition still stands where the guy pays on the first few dates. I think if the man does not have a whole lot of money, there's things you can do that are less expensive ... go out for a cappuccino as opposed to a full meal. Show a sense of generosity as a man that is comfortable on that financial level, but I think, across the board, it makes it a little bit easier for the etiquette to remain the same where the guy pays and the woman thanks the guy. And that's another thing that's really important. Should the woman acknowledge that the guy is paying? A lot of times, men say I pay, and the woman says nothing and doesn't acknowledge and doesn't thank me. I think etiquette-wise, if a man pays, you can say, "Thank you so much. It was a lovely coffee or a lovely dinner, or send a little thank-you text or a phone call the next day, saying it was wonderful that you took me out to dinner and I really enjoyed that.