Helping A Grieving Friend

What do I say to my friend after they have lost someone?

Some things to say to your friend after they have lost someone is to just be honest and say "I don't know what the right words are but just know that I'm here for you. You can call me anytime and talk about it". It's also nice sometimes to share a favorite memory of the loved one. You can just say something as simple as "I'm sorry for your loss", and remind them that you're there for them. It's really the simpler things. You don't need to fix them, but just know that they're hurting and that they're in pain. You're their friend and it's nice that you're by their side.

What should I avoid saying to my grieving friend?

When a friend is grieving, you want to avoid saying things that minimize the loss or ask them to change their feelings. You don't want to say things like, "be strong" or "look on the bright side" or "don't worry, you're going to get over this" or "cheer up, you can do this". This is because in reality it hurts and they're in pain and they need you just to be with them where they are.

What are some activities I can do with my grieving friend?

There are a lot of positive things that you can do to help your grieving friend, like encouraging him to do activities such as going to dinner, cafeteria's and movies. You can also give them company when they want to spend time quietly at home. It is better that you offer support to them for several months following their loss and give them the faith that you are always there.