How Far To Go On A Date

Should I kiss on the first date?

If you feel like kissing on the first date, absolutely. If you want to test a guy and make sure that he's not a tongue pusher or, you know, a guy that just jams his entire tongue down your throat so you feel like you're going to lose your lunch, absolutely. You want to give him a little peck on the lips, you want to make out a little bit, sure. Do whatever you want because kissing I know is extremely important to women and a lot of guys don't know how to kiss. Some guys are about as tender as a linebacker running through the line. They do not know how to tenderly kiss a woman, they have no clue. So if you want to test him out a little bit to see what he does, absolutely go in for the kiss. Have fun with it too.

Will a guy think I'm a slut if we have sex on the first date?

If he's a judgmental guy and he sleeps with you, he might judge you. But the fact is, he's not judging himself; it's a two-way street. I wrote a blog about that one time, I said, "I don't care--it's something I teach men all the time--I don't care where a woman's been, who she's slept with, how many guys she's been with. I don't care if she had sex with the Washington Redskins last night. The fact is, I didn't meet her up until this point, so I'm not going to judge any of her past experiences." I've spent years with woman I've slept with on the first date. I have no issue; I'm an adult. I can have sex, and I can distinguish the difference between sex, love, friendship, and everything else; a lot of people can't. So make sure how mature your man is before you jump into bed with him.

What kind of guy is bad choice for sex with on the first date?

You've got to make sure that the person you're with is an adult. Do not sleep with a man who acts like a boy. Do not sleep with a guy that's coming on too strong on the first date, all he talks about is sex, because that type of guy is just trying to have sex--nothing more, nothing less.