How To Act If You Believe Your Spouse Is Having An Affair

What do I do if I believe that my spouse is having an affair?

If you suspect that your spouse is having an affair, and you want to confront your spouse, my first concern and question for you is "Are you ready for the truth?" and if you say "Yes, I'm ready", here are some important things to know. Do not hurl accusations. Ask. Be curious. Be open. If you're suspecting, chances are you're pretty pissed already. You're going "How could this person do it to me?". You have to make sure that when you ask, you're already coming from a place of openness; of desire to know. Chances are, what's going to happen is you're going to get a wall. You're going to get denial. You're going to get blame. You're going to get someone turning it on you, saying "No. Absolutely not.", because their job is deception; for you not to know. For them, for you to know means a whole life change, so they're not going to go "Well, caught. Darn it". Understand that you may not get the truth at first, but how you present it is to be curious. Say "I want to know. I want to know because I'm suspecting this. Here's proof I've got and I want us to have an opportunity to move beyond this right now, and I need the truth. I need to know. Let's stop the lie and let's start telling the truth to each other."