How To Act If You Catch Your Spouse In The Act Of Cheating

What do I do if I catch my spouse in the act of cheating?

If you've caught your partner in the act of cheating, the problem is you have the visual picture in front of you. It's not in your imagination. It's hard to rationalize that it's not happening no matter what the proof, maybe the email I read isn't real. It's in your senses. A lot of stress and trauma comes from knowing there's an affair in your house and there's been a breach of trust. When you see it and there's the visual and you know it without a doubt, it's even more traumatic. It's very important that you give yourself a lot of nourishment as your reaction is going to be shock, trauma, anger, depression, and all of that's going to happen because you're traumatized. There's something called post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). That's what happens to us when we find out something or are traumatized. So you need to understand that what you're going to need now is a whole bunch of self-care. A whole bunch of not re-traumatizing yourself, not replaying the scene over and over again in your head. So take really good care of yourself, and stop the thoughts. Every time you start going back to the scene of the crime, come back to reality. Touch your heart and go "It's going to be okay. It's going to be okay. I'm going to take care of you. I'm going to take care of you." Because your self-care right now is the most important thing you can be doing.