How To Act If Your Spouse Is Having An Affair With Your Friend

What do I do if I know my spouse is having an affair with a friend of mine?

If you find out that your partner; your spouse, and your friend have been cheating on you, and have been having an affair, it's a double whammy. It's a double betrayal. Not only is it a betrayal by your partner who you've trusted, but also by your friend you've trusted; you're losing two for the price of one. Finding out that someone you've cared about; your friend, your husband or wife is having an affair is traumatic. You are going to have many emotional reactions. The bottom may feel like it's falling out of your life. Who can you trust? The most important thing is to build self-trust because you're going to have lots of feelings; lots of feeling towards your partner, lots of feelings about your friend, and lots of feeling about yourself and what the betrayal is doing to you. It's really important now, above all, to take care of yourself; to be really gentle and really loving as you rebuild. Whatever actions you end up taking at the end of this, right now the place to begin is to truly hold yourself, rebuild trust. The first question that comes up often is “How could I have been so dumb?” “How could I be so blind-sided?” So, start by rebuilding trust, awareness, and awakening in you. Take good care of yourself. That's where you begin.