How To And When To Tell Your Friends And Family You Are Divorcing

When and how do we tell our friends and family we're divorcing?

One of the things that I often hear from poeple when they divorce is not only do they lose their children, lose their home, their money, but they've also lost extended family, they've lost friendship networks, they've lost social circles, they've lost the church. People compete for these things. What happens is, it depends a great deal on how they've told people, what they've told, how involved they've gotten the community in their divorce. I recommend that people do not involve their community in divorce. That They keep their secrets private they keep their private and personal reasons for divorcing, just that. That they don't go out and discuss that my wife had an affair, my husband had an affair, he was embezzling, he slept with his secretary, he tried to rape me. These things are not important to tell anybody, except for the immediate people in the divorce.