How To Avoid Defensiveness In A Psychological Divorce War

How do I avoid defensiveness in a psychological divorce war?

You should avoid being a defender in a psychological divorce war because, if the other person is successful, you will go crazy. You will spend all your time obsessing over the mind games. How do you avoid getting caught up in that vortex? Recognize what it is for what it is. Find other things to do with your time rather than engage in the psychological war. Work to better your self esteem. Don't play the victim. Don't allow yourself to be the victim.