How To Avoid Getting A Divorce
What can I do to avoid getting a divorce?
One of the amazing developments in recent times is the idea of self-development, of making myself as good as I can be. And there are a lot of self-help consciousness raising programs around. And it's there that a lot of people get dramatic shift in their consciousness to realize that they have settled, that this is all there is, when there is a whole world out there available to them if they would change their thinking, if they would develop positive relationship skills, that many things could be working to their benefit. One of the concepts we want parents to know and married people to know, in any relationship, is that to take personal responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions. All of your thoughts, all of your feelings, all of your behavior and actions, are distinctly you. You decide that. In the old days the way most of us grew up, people didn't accept responsibility for their thoughts, feelings, and actions. And so instead, they blamed other people when things didn't go well for them. And that means, in blaming someone else, you don't look at what you are doing or saying that's creating the problem. When you're pointing the finger at someone else, you've got three fingers pointing back at you. That's a good metaphor like the place to start is within. Like, why am I having a problem with this person? Why are my children acting like brats, and I can't stand to be around them? It has everything to do with you.
