How To Discover The Key To Your Child's Misbehaviour
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How To Discover The Key To Your Child's Misbehaviour
Jayne Major, Ph.D. (Parenting Educator & Child Custody Consultant, Breakthrough Parenting Services, Inc. ) gives expert video advice on: What is the key to understanding my child's behavior?
What is the key to understanding my child's behavior?
It would be one of the biggest miracles if parents could just stop asking their children questions. Instead, start with the word "I."; you will never go wrong. "I." "I don't understand. I'm concerned. I'm so happy. I love it. I'm really confused about this". When you start with the word "I," you are inviting an exchange. Whereas when you say, "Why did you do that? What's wrong with you? How come you're not finishing up? Don't you think you ought to...?" you get all this crazy thing of "I don't want to, I don't have to, I did it already." Then you get all this crazy making dance that drives parents crazy, and they don't realize that it isn't the child; it's them.