How To Get Your Step Kids To Like You
Susan Davis (Founder and Director, StepFamily Center) gives expert video advice on: What can I do to get my stepkids to like me?
What can I do to get my stepkids to like me?
I would say don't try too hard, and be fair and respectful with them. In other words, respect the fact that they have a position in that house with their parent and you are not going to undermine it. They are very important. They know how to feel completely loved in that house by their parent and that is how they still want to feel. Respect their position and respect that relationship. Don't come on criticizing them all the time because they won't like you. You don't have the credibility. You can criticize them just like their mother and their father, but they know that mom and dad love them. That buys a lot of leeway. They don't know how you feel about them and they don't know how they feel about you, so criticism by you carries so much more weight. So think about all those things when you're interacting with the kids and then over time a relationship might develop and form.