How To Heal Your Relationship With Your Cheating Partner

How can I help heal my relationship with my cheating partner?

The way to heal your marriage after you find out that your partner has been unfaithful is to first heal your relationship with yourself. You've got to withdraw as much energy and focus on what has happened to you, and how bad you feel, and how betrayed you are, and start spending more time really realigning with 'What is it that I want? Who am I now that this has happened? What are my needs in this relationship?' It's time. It's time to become radically honest about who you are. This is an opportunity to rediscover, because there is no status quo anymore about what kind of relationship do you want. When you discover that you have rights, that you have needs; that you have needs that need to be taken care of, then you can go back into the relationship and say, "OK, for this relationship to work, this is what I need." The healing has to start happening within. You've got to start giving to yourself and healing yourself; healing your wound. It's almost like a cat who's licking their own wound. You start there because you actually have the saliva, the love that can heal that wound. You've got to start healing your wound, and preparing yourself to forgive, because the first step to really healing the relationship is allowing yourself to forgive. In order for this relationship to happen, you're going to have to trust again. You have to get into a place where you are strong enough and ready to trust again.