How To Know When To Consider A Divorce
When should I consider a divorce?
A person should go down the divorce route when there really is no way for them to be compatible together. Certainly if there's serious abuse, domestic violence or someone's out of control, a rageaholic, an alcoholic, drug abuse, criminal activity, there isn't any way to make them change, then in extreme cases divorce is a very important thing to do. I just, it's something that needs to be thought through very, very carefully because the implications of reorganizing a family is very vast, and there's the possibility for one person to be making a unilateral decision for everyone in the family. In order to get a divorce all that's necessary is for one person to decide, "I'm getting a divorce", and everyone in the family, not just the other spouse, but the children, the extended family, it is a very serious decision to make, and there has to be really good reasons, I think, to make it, just as there has to be really good reasons to get married in the first place. I think that we have a tendency to take the concept of, idea of marriage too cavalierly. Like okay. I see people in my classes and I'm just astonished at how they got together and how they ended up making babies; that part doesn't astonish me, but now what astonishes me is that there are children and the people haven't thought through the relationship. If you're going to have children then you need to make a nest to put the children into, so that the children can be provided for and that takes maturity. So, back to should parents have children at all? Not, I say, not unless they're ready, that they've prepared and they are mature enough to raise those children.
