How To Resolve Your Romantic Jealousy Towards Your Spouse

How can I resolve my romantic jealousy towards my spouse?

In French, the word for jealousy is 'jalousie' - I feel lousy. Because that is what jealousy does. It makes our partner feel lousy and worse. It makes us feel really bad because it's coming from a sense of not being enough, not being worthy, feeling insecure and fearing abandonment. Jealousy can destroy a marriage, it can destroy trust in a partnership. Essentially, you're saying, "I don't trust you," and if that is what you're projecting out there, guess what is going to happen to the foundation of your marriage? So, jealousy makes you feel lousy. It's lousy for your relationship. You've got to change. First look at if your partner is really doing something that warrants your jealousy? Are they flirting with others? Are they not giving you enough attention? Are they disappearing for days at a time? You've got a real problem then. If this is more you feeling insecure, the problem starts with you and you've got to work on yourself. Often, jealousy comes from not feeling good inside about yourself. That is where the real change needs to begin. "I am enough." Look in the mirror each day and say, "I am enough. I deserve my partner. I deserve love." Because as you expand your sense of worthiness, your relationship is going to feel so much better. You are going to feel much better in your relationship because you do deserve love.