How To Talk To Your Child About Your Divorce Plans
What should I tell my child about my divorce plans?
Children need to know the basics of why are we getting a divorce, where are we going to live, how am I going to see both parents, what's going to happen? Where will I go to school? What kind of changes are in store? There are many changes. So, we have to explain to them when the parents will be separating, take the child to the other parents apartment or new home and let them explore that before the move happens ideally. So that they are grounded in this change that is coming. Children really hate change. It isn't in their nature to feel comfortable with change at all. They need a lot of reassurance that they are going to be okay. It isn't, for children, about protecting their parents. It isn't, for children, about being in the role of taking care of Mommy or Daddy. The parent role is still vitally important on the part of both parents so the constant reassurances that they are going to be okay is really what the bottom line is.