How To Tell If Someone's Online Dating Photos Are Accurate
Beth Roberts and Karin Anderson (Online Dating Coaches) gives expert video advice on: How can I tell if someone's online dating photos are accurate?
How can I tell if someone's online dating photos are accurate?
We had an online dating client once who said, "He showed up for the date and I couldn't believe it: he didn't even look like his picture." I said, "Here's what you need to do: you don't just take that one picture and accept that as what they look like. You should e-mail to screen whether or not you're interested in someone and whether you're interested in them includes not just what they think or they say, but also what they look like. It's okay to not want to go out with someone because they're not attractive to you. What we recommend that you do is, when you send your first e-mail, send an additional photo of yourself. There are lots of great photos that you have that aren't perfect for posting for your ad - some of the older photos you might have, where you're at a party or with your family, or you were at a family reunion. Take those photos, send them to the person and describe the situation and ask them to send a similar photo back. That way, no matter what they posted as part of their online dating profile, you're going to know what they look like before you show up on that date. One easy way to find out if someone's photo they've either posted or sent to you is recent and accurate, is to show interest in it. Maybe it's a picture of them playing tennis, so say, "Tell me about what's behind that photo. When were you playing tennis?" They'll want to talk about themselves so they'll say, "Oh, that's when I was in college." Ask them, "I'd love to see a recent picture of you with something you enjoy doing. Would you mind this weekend taking some pictures of yourself, have some friends take some pictures and email them to me?" When you show interest, rather than being an investigator, they're going to share with you recent photographs and then you'll have a more accurate description of what they look like.