Sheri Meyers (Marriage and Family Therapist) gives expert video advice on: Should I avoid friendships with people I'm highly attracted to?; How do I avoid cheating on my spouse? and more...
Should I avoid friendships with people I'm highly attracted to?
I'm often asked. Okay, I ‘ve got a gorgeous friend and I'm kind of attracted to her, but I'm married; is it okay to pursue this friendship? Come on what do you think? Do you not think this is a huge vulnerability? Come on, take a look at the situation. You're attracted to this person, and you're developing a friendship. the friendship means that you're opening up, you're sharing and you're attracted to this person. This is a path that's very dangerous. Look at all the energy that's its going to take to not fall in love, and to not be sexual. Even in that tug of war, you're taking it away from your family, and you're taking that energy away from your spouse. If you can take this desire to connect with this friend and make your spouse this friend and take this energy and connect with your spouse. It's going to be better energy served and there's going to be lots more in return. Stay away from the friend that you're attracted to if you're married.