Maintaining Control During Divorce
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Maintaining Control During Divorce
Stacy Phillips, Esq. (Certified Family Law Specialist and Author) gives expert video advice on: How can I gain more control over my divorce?; How do I control my divorce, while keeping conflict to a minimum?; What are the three fronts of the control war in divorce? and more...
What causes control to shift during divorce?
The court takes over and assumes control of a divorce; somebody picks the wrong lawyer and that lawyer takes control; somebody's health is affected and control can shift; there is a bad court outcome and as a result, things need to shift. The weather can be bad, and that can affect a custody exchange and a shift of control between the individuals during a divorce.
What are the "Big Six" control areas in divorce?
The "Big Six" control areas in divorce are: money; health (physical and emotional); children; growth (personal or professional); loss of love and intimacy; fear - real fear, perceived fear, emotional fear, physical fear.
What are the three fronts of the control war in divorce?
What are the three control wars, as the title, or the subtitle of my book is "Divorce: It's All About Control- How to Win the Emotional, Psychological, and Legal Wars."
What is the main issue in a divorce control war?
One may think that the most pervasive and prevalent divorce control war is the legal war, and yes it may be the most obvious, but I believe that the emotional wars are the most pervasive. Not everybody litigates in court, but everybody going through a divorce deals in an emotional battle within themselves and with their ex, their children and their environment.
What are "head trips" in divorce?
Head trips are part of the emotional divorce war at the basic level and part of the psychological war in the more sinister example. Messing with somebody's head in an emotional war, showing up at the baseball game of your son with a new trixie on your arm: you're messing with somebody's head. In a psychological divorce war, you're manipulating them with the goal of trying to make them think they're crazy.
What are "mind games" in divorce?
Mind games are people messing with your head trying to make you believe that you are crazy or that something may have happened or didn't happen the way you remembered. For example, you are having a drink with your ex and he orders a drink for you that he knows is not your drink of choice but the women you thought he was having an affair with.